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  • Amie Johnson Interview Image
    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Amie Johnson: Trauma survivor and a host of The HeART of Healing podcast

    22nd March 2019 /

    I “met” with Amie via Instagram and instantly felt we have much in common. She’s recently come out of years of dealing with trauma symptoms and mental health (mis)diagnoses and is moving on in her healing journey. I always appreciate her heartfelt and honest posts, and find much wisdom in her words and story. Here are Amie’s own words: Tell us a little bit about your life journey. This question always gets me! I’ll give you the “nutshell version.” I was born and raised in a small, beach town in West Michigan. My childhood was a strange dichotomy of idyllic and awful. I had an emotionally and physically abusive dad, and…

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    Interview with Elizabeth Johnsen: woman and mother on a path of healing and transformation

    29th January 2018
    Dari Frampton Interview Image

    Interview with Dari Frampton: A woman on a journey of transformation, healing & discovering her true self

    24th May 2019
    Tanya Amidei Interview Image

    Interview with Tanya Amidei: Sexual abuse survivor, life coach and a spiritual writer

    28th June 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    How childhood trauma robs your power away and how to take it back

    15th November 2018 /

    This summer I spent about a month at my father’s house with my son. It wasn’t our first time and, as I’d expected, it was tumultuous. A part of me knew it was time to stand up to some of the dysfunction in my family of origin and confront it. I could only hope that this experience was going to bring me some resolutions and it would prove empowering. And it did. For the first week or so the usual, generations-old, themes of guilt and shame, insecurity and inadequacy were saturating the air until it came to a boil. There were tears and screaming, anger and pain – suppressed emotions and…

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    What I learned from my physical and mental instability episode

    18th July 2018
    I am the person I am because of my trauma image

    I am the person I am today because of my trauma, not despite it

    19th December 2019
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    The power is within you

    2nd August 2017
  • Codependency as the origin of mommy guilt image
    Trauma Healing

    How trauma and codependency in childhood can cause toxic mommy guilt

    6th November 2018 /

    I often question why I feel so much guilt as a mother towards my little boy. It’s not only crippling my own experience of being a mother but also sending inaccurate messages to my son which shape the way he views himself and the world. I feel stricken with guilt every time I feel the effects of my trauma. I blame myself for not being able to shake off the sadness or depression I feel, for the anger that sometimes I can’t hold or the negativity that my critical mind is keeping me a captive to. I feel shame every time I’m not at my best for letting my son down. When…

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    On grief: the missing relationship with the mother

    19th May 2016
    My Pain is My Power Image

    My Pain is My Power

    17th June 2019
    Dear Beautiful You Image

    Dear beautiful you

    9th October 2017
  • The shame around being a "bad mother" Image
    Trauma Healing

    The shame around being a “bad mother”

    2nd November 2018 /

    Sometimes I resent being a mother. That is not to say that I don’t love my child. Unlike my mother and some mothers who can’t love, I do love my son. With all my heart and soul, always and forever. I believe all mothers have moments when they resent motherhood. I believe that the contemporary expectation to be a non-stop happy and vibrant mother is not only unrealistic, it’s also severely shaming and stigmatising. It makes natural temporary feelings of dissatisfaction or unfulfillment fester into gnawing guilt. That makes me think how terribly unprepared and largely delusional so many mothers enter into motherhood, including me. I wanted my child with…

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    Rewriting my story in a radical self-forgiveness context

    25th May 2016
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    Heal yourself, heal the world

    27th March 2018
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    Using crystals to access the subconscious and heal deep wounds

    28th November 2017
  • The missing relationship with the mother image
    Trauma Healing

    On grief: the missing relationship with the mother

    19th May 2016 /

    If you ask me how my life has been the last couple of years, I probably wouldn’t say it has been full of grief. It would be one of the first things to cross my mind but I wouldn’t say it. I would probably divert to being a mom and looking after a household, which is true but it’s only half of my world. The grief and everything it brings – I’ve put aside in the back pocket of my mind. It wasn’t until I started listening to the audiobook Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed, that I felt how much grief I still carry in me.…

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    Reclaiming a lost self: an experience in my home country

    13th September 2016
    A Powerful Start To a New Year Image

    A powerful start to a new year

    15th January 2018
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    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018
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    Trauma Healing

    Becoming our true selves

    2nd March 2016 /

    I had a revelation – I had put my life on pause. About 3 years ago I unconsciously put my own life on hold. What happened at that time is that I moved in with my partner and we had a baby. Life drastically changed as I moved out of my flat in Dublin city and moved in a quieter area nearby; I said goodbye to single life living with my best friend and embraced sharing a relationship and a 3 bedroom house with my boyfriend. I also lost my job and not long after that we got pregnant. It was a life overhaul. I switched identities over a few months. Consciously…

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    A Message From the Goddess Isis Image

    A message from the goddess Isis

    8th November 2016
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    Reclaiming a lost self: an experience in my home country

    13th September 2016
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    Life and life’s challenges

    17th July 2017
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the ability to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping others heal and grow to become their authentic selves and create an abundant life.

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