The Journey of Healing from Trauma

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    A breast screening and a message of trust

    6th December 2022 /

    Last week I went for a breast check for the first time in 7 years. The last time I did was in 2015, a few months after my sister died of breast cancer. It wasn’t a surprise that the check-up was triggering. The first thing the doctor asked me was, Are there any complaints? And my answer was, I have a family history of breast cancer. He laughed and said that this was not a complaint, and we proceeded to the examination. I was lost in my thoughts when he said I had cysts in both breasts. At this point my heart started pounding and it was the only thing…

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    Eclipse season, covid and hitting rock bottom

    17th November 2022
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    Becoming our true selves

    2nd March 2016
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    Embracing our (complex) human nature

    13th June 2017
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    Eclipse season, covid and hitting rock bottom

    17th November 2022 /

    The migraine started one day before the first eclipse on October 25th – a solar eclipse in Scorpio, which is where the south lunar node is located at the moment and where my natal south node also is. Without going into details, the lunar nodes are an important part of one’s astrological birth chart. Very generally speaking, the south node indicates where we feel comfortable and is connected with our past and the north node is where our soul wants to progress and grow, and that usually feels unfamiliar and scary. The lunar nodes are positioned on an axis and now the south node is in Scorpio and the north…

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    Inner Child Therapy: Working with the father and mother roles

    12th April 2017
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    Forgiveness letter to myself

    11th April 2017
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    On support and being in the flow

    19th April 2017
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    Start of the school year and the nervous system

    8th September 2022 /

    The start of the school year is pretty much the start of The Year for a parent. And here we are, another school year is beginning for our son in a few days. With all the arrangements and engagements around it, come all the stressors and negative emotions associated with it. Past experiences paint in black what’s to come in the future. It’s how trauma works. Trauma keeps you stuck in the past. Unresolved experiences and emotions from the past prevent you from moving forward and focusing on the here and now. Your nervous system is stuck in a threat response and focused purely on ensuring survival. It’s biologically not…

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    Finding your authentic blend of expression

    13th June 2018
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    Accepting our shadow as a way back to wholeness

    6th June 2018
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    Coming full circle

    16th August 2017
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    The good, the bad, and everything in between – the blessings of another Christmas

    27th December 2021 /

    So there we have it – Christmas is done and gone, for another year. A magical and somewhat sad time. On the day before Christmas, Sylvie was already stressing that Christmas will be gone soon. It’s hard living and being in the moment, even for an 8-year-old kid. You wait for this special day and before you know it – it’s in the past. But before that, there was the opening of the presents! Who doesn’t love presents?! And not because of the stuff you get, but because of the thoughtfulness of the people who give you the presents. That is a feeling you want to keep with yourself for…

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    Being present: getting to know and love ourselves

    22nd December 2015
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    Self-doubt: get out of your head and into your heart

    14th February 2018
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    Rewriting my story in a radical self-forgiveness context

    25th May 2016
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    Oh, how I miss…

    4th September 2021 /

    I’m back in Sofia. It’s been three weeks since we came back from the country and a seaside holiday. I feel that as soon as I stepped into the city, the wheel started turning at light speed. Each day is filled with work and responsibilities and I barely have any time for myself. I’m sure you’re probably experiencing something similar – I mean, ain’t that life today? Personally, my life changed (differently) since the beginning of the pandemic. Around that time last year, I started working as a freelance translator and my work has been increasing and intensifying ever since. This is something good considering that I hadn’t been working…

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    The power is within you

    2nd August 2017
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    Cutting through clouds and fear

    17th October 2016
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    Soul Searching

    10th October 2015
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    The importance of keeping the connection with yourself

    25th July 2021 /

    I’ve been staying at my father’s house for two weeks now. Because he lives in England, we don’t get to spend much time together. In fact, we’ve been living in different parts of the world for the last almost 15 years. However, every year for the last 5 years he’s been coming to visit his childhood home and I’ve been using this opportunity to spend time with him. We’ve been through many stages in our mutual life journey. We’ve certainly had many difficult phases but somehow we’re managing to keep our relationship alive. Furthermore, every single year has been different as I’ve been progressing on my healing path. Still, in…

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    Acceptance: the path to change

    5th February 2018
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    Crisis as a call for change and how to integrate it in your life

    21st November 2015
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    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    4th December 2019
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    The pandemic as an opportunity to continue healing – repairing what was once ruptured

    7th July 2021 /

    It’s been more than a year since my last post. As the pandemic was taking over the world and thus dominating our concerns and worries, I retrieved into my inner world. At the beginning of it all, I was happy that I could take the time to disconnect from the daily stressors of life. I was wise enough to use the time to truly sink in the experience of continuing my healing journey. Spending the days with my son, who was at home all day, gave us an opportunity for much “repair” to be done. In attachment theory, the “good enough parent” is not a perfect parent. The good-enough parents…

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    Here and now: being grateful for another year

    1st January 2017
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    On femininity: breathwork exercise and a mother’s message

    11th May 2017

    Oh, how I miss…

    4th September 2021
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    A turning point on my healing journey – experiencing an emotional flashback and remembering my past

    1st March 2020 /

    A few days ago I had my most intense emotional flashback. Now, if you don’t know what is an emotional flashback or what it feels like, you’re not alone. For sure, I’ve read about them in my research on childhood trauma and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) but I haven’t experienced one. Or at least I didn’t know at the time. An emotional flashback is an intense emotional reaction, many describe it as a sort of flooding of emotion, usually as a result of a trigger – an event, a situation, it could be something someone says, and how that makes you feel. Triggers could be many and they…

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    Coming out from the mud and continuing onward

    16th October 2017
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    I am the person I am today because of my trauma, not despite it

    19th December 2019
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    “If I only could make them happy…”

    16th May 2019
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    Letting go (of what no longer serves us) never goes out of fashion

    2nd January 2020 /

    New year, new me? Well, there is no need for a new me every new year if you’re OK with yourself and feel enough as you are. But certainly, there are situations, relationships, even people that need to be let go of. More accurately – it’s the type of relationships I’m having with certain people, or even more accurately – the expectations I have from them. I’m going through an “interesting” process – as I’m healing my childhood trauma more and more, I realise the triggers and traps I fall into more and more. As early childhood trauma is an attachment trauma in its essence, it’s a relational trauma too. That…

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    How trauma and codependency in childhood can cause toxic mommy guilt

    6th November 2018

    A breast screening and a message of trust

    6th December 2022
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    A powerful start to a new year

    15th January 2018
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    I am the person I am today because of my trauma, not despite it

    19th December 2019 /

    My biggest battle is accepting my childhood trauma and the effects it has had and continues to have on my life and its overall quality. More accurately, I struggle the most with accepting that because of my posttraumatic stress responses, my role as a mother has been impaired. As a victim of childhood abuse and trauma, I am especially sensitive towards the fact that because of my own “condition” my child is suffering too.  I can easily go down the spiral of blaming myself for not being the mother I wish I could be, for the things I have done or haven’t done because I wasn’t well myself. Because I am…

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    The four steps of personal transformation

    30th January 2017
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    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019
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    Heal yourself, heal the world

    27th March 2018
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal and grow to become their authentic selves and build an abundant life.

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