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  • Interview with Laura Lee Image
    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Laura Lee: Therapist and Coach at Scapegoats Anonymous

    19th April 2019 /

    Laura and I connected through Instagram a while ago and she’s definitely made my feed feel educational and enriching. Her posts are full of gems of wisdom and her self-awareness is inspiring. What I didn’t know about her was her “subtle” sense of humour 🙂 Here are Laura’s own words: Tell us a little about your life journey. I grew up in Brooklyn in a low-income family with middle-class amenities. The streets of Brooklyn are like the lines on the palm of my hand: imprinted on me, ingrained in my soul, and with so many divergent paths.  I’m the daughter of immigrants, my mother from Italy and my father from Korea.…

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    Interview with Alexis Rose: Author of Untangled, a story of resilience, courage, and triumph

    29th March 2017
    Jonelle du Pont Interview Image

    Interview with Jonelle du Pont: blogger and writer at Tyranny of Pink

    26th July 2017
    Amie Johnson Interview Image

    Interview with Amie Johnson: Trauma survivor and a host of The HeART of Healing podcast

    22nd March 2019
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    The Wonder List

    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of April

    3rd April 2019 /

    “Choose your thoughts carefully. Keep what brings you peace, release what brings you suffering. And know that happiness is just a thought away.” ~ Unknown Goal for the month: Take steps courageously towards achieving your goals and desires, be bold and confident in what you want, do not let fear interfere with your clarity and determination.   Things I’m grateful for and bring me joy: ♥ The return of spring ♥ Increasing sunshine & longer days ♥ Newfound courage ♥ Determination and commitment to my journey ♥ Feelings of empowerment ♥ Aries season and its emboldening energy ♥ Exploring diverse Sofia city ♥ Drinking Aperol Spritz with family ♥ Walking and talking with friends ♥ Making plans for the…

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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of March

    4th March 2019
    The Wonder List May Image

    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of May

    6th May 2019
    The Wonder List June Image

    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of June

    5th June 2019
  • Amie Johnson Interview Image
    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Amie Johnson: Trauma survivor and a host of The HeART of Healing podcast

    22nd March 2019 /

    I “met” with Amie via Instagram and instantly felt we have much in common. She’s recently come out of years of dealing with trauma symptoms and mental health (mis)diagnoses and is moving on in her healing journey. I always appreciate her heartfelt and honest posts, and find much wisdom in her words and story. Here are Amie’s own words: Tell us a little bit about your life journey. This question always gets me! I’ll give you the “nutshell version.” I was born and raised in a small, beach town in West Michigan. My childhood was a strange dichotomy of idyllic and awful. I had an emotionally and physically abusive dad, and…

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    Interview with Kathy Garland: blogger, writer and inspirational author at Kwoted

    27th June 2018
    Interview with Laura Lee Image

    Interview with Laura Lee: Therapist and Coach at Scapegoats Anonymous

    19th April 2019
    Interview with Alexis Rose Image

    Interview with Alexis Rose: Author of Untangled, a story of resilience, courage, and triumph

    29th March 2017
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    The Wonder List

    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of March

    4th March 2019 /

    “What actually sustain us, what is fundamentally beautiful, is compassion for yourself and for those around you.” ~ Lupita Nyong’o Goal for the month: Garnering inspiration, building healthy habits and continuing to practice your craft.   Things I’m grateful for and bring me joy: ♥ Standing up for myself and fiercely loving myself ♥ Speaking up my truth without fearing rejection ♥ Honest conversations with loved ones ♥ Voicing concerns and venting frustrations ♥ Quiet and minimal places ♥ No distraction and noises ♥ Fresh air and blue skies ♥ Playing with my son on the floor ♥ Making coffee and cooking breakfast ♥ Drinking tea in the park ♥ Setting up an editorial calendar ♥ Inspiration flow ♥ Bulding momentum ♥…

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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of June

    5th June 2019
    The Wonder List April Image

    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of April

    3rd April 2019
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of May

    6th May 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019 /

    Last Monday I applied for a job position as a writer. It’s been many years since I worked as an employee and I’ve experienced a fair bit of disappointments on the professional front. But I thought all this was behind me now and since the opportunity was ticking my boxes and I met the requirements, I went for it with my best intentions. The hiring company was the online publication Bright Side and they wanted me to pass a test. After a couple of days of communicating with the HR, a broken link, and a slight delay, I got to the challenge. I didn’t pass it. But let me start from…

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    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018
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    The hidden gift in every difficulty

    6th July 2017
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    Coming out from the mud and continuing onward

    16th October 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    An unexpected healing experience during the holiday season

    31st December 2018 /

    I am writing this on 31 December 2018 and so far this holiday season has proven unexpected. For first time ever my partner, son and I got to stay at home for the holidays. No travelling, no other people’s traditions or expectations – we put the start and foundation of our family tradition. This is something I’ve longed for for a very long time. I’ve never had a strong family of my own and I barely have any memories of our time together, if there was any “togetherness” at all. Having my own family has always been like a guiding star for me – something I’ve always, even subconsciously, strived for.…

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    Honouring how far we have come

    18th January 2017
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    Using crystals to access the subconscious and heal deep wounds

    28th November 2017
    Cutting Through Clouds and Fear Image

    Cutting through clouds and fear

    17th October 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    How childhood trauma robs your power away and how to take it back

    15th November 2018 /

    This summer I spent about a month at my father’s house with my son. It wasn’t our first time and, as I’d expected, it was tumultuous. A part of me knew it was time to stand up to some of the dysfunction in my family of origin and confront it. I could only hope that this experience was going to bring me some resolutions and it would prove empowering. And it did. For the first week or so the usual, generations-old, themes of guilt and shame, insecurity and inadequacy were saturating the air until it came to a boil. There were tears and screaming, anger and pain – suppressed emotions and…

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    On femininity: breathwork exercise and a mother’s message

    11th May 2017
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    Finding your authentic blend of expression

    13th June 2018

    What I learned from my physical and mental instability episode

    18th July 2018
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    Trauma Healing

    How trauma and codependency in childhood can cause toxic mommy guilt

    6th November 2018 /

    I often question why I feel so much guilt as a mother towards my little boy. It’s not only crippling my own experience of being a mother but also sending inaccurate messages to my son which shape the way he views himself and the world. I feel stricken with guilt every time I feel the effects of my trauma. I blame myself for not being able to shake off the sadness or depression I feel, for the anger that sometimes I can’t hold or the negativity that my critical mind is keeping me a captive to. I feel shame every time I’m not at my best for letting my son down. When…

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    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016
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    Using crystals to access the subconscious and heal deep wounds

    28th November 2017
    The shame around being a "bad mother" Image

    The shame around being a “bad mother”

    2nd November 2018
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    Trauma Healing

    The shame around being a “bad mother”

    2nd November 2018 /

    Sometimes I resent being a mother. That is not to say that I don’t love my child. Unlike my mother and some mothers who can’t love, I do love my son. With all my heart and soul, always and forever. I believe all mothers have moments when they resent motherhood. I believe that the contemporary expectation to be a non-stop happy and vibrant mother is not only unrealistic, it’s also severely shaming and stigmatising. It makes natural temporary feelings of dissatisfaction or unfulfillment fester into gnawing guilt. That makes me think how terribly unprepared and largely delusional so many mothers enter into motherhood, including me. I wanted my child with…

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    Working with the moon, its energy and phases

    19th March 2018
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    Using crystals to access the subconscious and heal deep wounds

    28th November 2017
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    Reclaiming our wholeness

    17th March 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Turning seasons and the possibility of new horizons

    27th September 2018 /

    Weather in Bulgaria has turned and it’s been really chilly for the last couple of days – we woke up to a 1°C/33°F morning in Sofia. It will be getting slightly warmer next week but, even so, autumn is upon us. I just flipped the calendar into October (although there’s a few more days) because I usually remember to do it when we’re well into the new month so I used this rare opportunity of remembering in advance. Doing this I flashbacked to when I first put the calendar up on the wall early in January. And here we are, just a few more days and we will be in…

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    Working with the moon, its energy and phases

    19th March 2018
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    Taking the first steps

    6th February 2016
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    Autumn and the renewal of the soul: on priorities, anxiety and social media

    11th November 2015
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the ability to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping others heal and grow to become their authentic selves and create an abundant life.

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