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    Healing & Recovery

    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019 /

    Last Monday I applied for a job position as a writer. It’s been many years since I worked as an employee and I’ve experienced a fair bit of disappointments on the professional front. But I thought all this was behind me now and since the opportunity was ticking my boxes and I met the requirements, I went for it with my best intentions. The hiring company was the online publication Bright Side and they wanted me to pass a test. After a couple of days of communicating with the HR, a broken link, and a slight delay, I got to the challenge. I didn’t pass it. But let me start from…

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    Embracing our (complex) human nature

    13th June 2017
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    On gratitude

    20th December 2015
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    A turning point on my healing journey – experiencing an emotional flashback and remembering my past

    1st March 2020
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    Healing & Recovery

    An unexpected healing experience during the holiday season

    31st December 2018 /

    I am writing this on 31 December 2018 and so far this holiday season has proven unexpected. For first time ever my partner, son and I got to stay at home for the holidays. No travelling, no other people’s traditions or expectations – we put the start and foundation of our family tradition. This is something I’ve longed for for a very long time. I’ve never had a strong family of my own and I barely have any memories of our time together, if there was any “togetherness” at all. Having my own family has always been like a guiding star for me – something I’ve always, even subconsciously, strived for.…

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    September astrology vibes and dives

    14th September 2016
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    Showing up for ourselves: an experience of a photo session

    30th June 2016
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    Crisis as a call for change and how to integrate it in your life

    21st November 2015
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    Healing & Recovery

    How childhood trauma robs your power away and how to take it back

    15th November 2018 /

    This summer I spent about a month at my father’s house with my son. It wasn’t our first time and, as I’d expected, it was tumultuous. A part of me knew it was time to stand up to some of the dysfunction in my family of origin and confront it. I could only hope that this experience was going to bring me some resolutions and it would prove empowering. And it did. For the first week or so the usual, generations-old, themes of guilt and shame, insecurity and inadequacy were saturating the air until it came to a boil. There were tears and screaming, anger and pain – suppressed emotions and…

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    The power is within you

    2nd August 2017

    The importance of keeping the connection with yourself

    25th July 2021
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    Quiet confidence: living in alignment with what our souls desire

    2nd March 2017
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    Healing & Recovery

    How trauma and codependency in childhood can cause toxic mommy guilt

    6th November 2018 /

    I often question why I feel so much guilt as a mother towards my little boy. It’s not only crippling my own experience of being a mother but also sending inaccurate messages to my son which shape the way he views himself and the world. I feel stricken with guilt every time I feel the effects of my trauma. I blame myself for not being able to shake off the sadness or depression I feel, for the anger that sometimes I can’t hold or the negativity that my critical mind is keeping me a captive to. I feel shame every time I’m not at my best for letting my son down. When…

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    September astrology vibes and dives

    14th September 2016
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    Sacred Mothering: how to be a soulful mother on a spiritual path

    23rd November 2017
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    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019
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    Healing & Recovery

    The shame around being a “bad mother”

    2nd November 2018 /

    Sometimes I resent being a mother. That is not to say that I don’t love my child. Unlike my mother and some mothers who can’t love, I do love my son. With all my heart and soul, always and forever. I believe all mothers have moments when they resent motherhood. I believe that the contemporary expectation to be a non-stop happy and vibrant mother is not only unrealistic, it’s also severely shaming and stigmatising. It makes natural temporary feelings of dissatisfaction or unfulfillment fester into gnawing guilt. That makes me think how terribly unprepared and largely delusional so many mothers enter into motherhood, including me. I wanted my child with…

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    Rewriting my story in a radical self-forgiveness context

    25th May 2016
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    A powerful start to a new year

    15th January 2018
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    Becoming our true selves

    2nd March 2016
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    Healing & Recovery

    Turning seasons and the possibility of new horizons

    27th September 2018 /

    Weather in Bulgaria has turned and it’s been really chilly for the last couple of days – we woke up to a 1°C/33°F morning in Sofia. It will be getting slightly warmer next week but, even so, autumn is upon us. I just flipped the calendar into October (although there’s a few more days) because I usually remember to do it when we’re well into the new month so I used this rare opportunity of remembering in advance. Doing this I flashbacked to when I first put the calendar up on the wall early in January. And here we are, just a few more days and we will be in…

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    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016
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    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018
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    How childhood trauma robs your power away and how to take it back

    15th November 2018
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    What I learned from my physical and mental instability episode

    18th July 2018 /

    (Long post alert) I’m just back from my holidays in Greece. We spent 11 days on the stunning islands in the Ionian sea on west coast of the country. I’d been prepping for this journey for months, organising diligently and planning fervently. I’ve waited passionately and eagerly until the day came. The complications started on the day before our trip. It appeared that our car’s documents were out of date and needed to be renewed. It was Saturday and we were supposed to leave the next day, Sunday. We decided not to risk passing the border with invalid documents so had to wait till the offices opened on Monday. That…

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    A solo adventure and a glance into a past life

    27th April 2017
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    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018
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    Turning seasons and the possibility of new horizons

    27th September 2018
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    Web Wonderland

    Web Wonderland No.7: Back from holidays, stand-up-real-talk comedy, and unleashing our women’s power

    15th July 2018 /

    Hey guys! I’m just back from our holidays in the wonderful land of Greece. My family and I spent 10 days on the Ionian island of Lefkada with a short one-day trip to the islands Kefalonia + Ithaka. Now, I’m still processing the journey and I feel it deserves its own proper post. Peculiar things happened to me while I was there and I’m still not able to put them into words. What inspired me to write this post was a few talks I was having with my partner, a talk/stand-up comedy show I watched and an article on the just passed solar eclipse and new moon. I’d like to…

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    Web Wonderland No.5: The importance of a support system, working with the medicine wheel and being yourself while changing the world

    26th March 2017
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    Web Wonderland No.3: New life coming to fruition, crazy eclipse season, and a special bind magic

    19th February 2017
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    Web Wonderland No.2: How to clear past life trauma, create freedom in your life, and put your money into what makes you happy

    12th February 2017
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    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Kathy Garland: blogger, writer and inspirational author at Kwoted

    27th June 2018 /

    I met Kathy in the wonderful blogging world and loved her stories and insights from first sight. I quickly committed to reading her blog Kwoted regularly and have never wasted my time – it’s full of practical wisdom, grounded spirituality, brilliant inspiration and deep transformation. I have the opportunity and pleasure to interview her and learn more about her healing journey. Here are Kathy’s own words: Tell us a little bit about your life journey. I was born and raised on the west side of Chicago. Shortly after I turned sixteen, my mother died from complications with kidney disease. A year after that, my father gave up his parental rights…

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    Interview with Tanya Amidei: Sexual abuse survivor, life coach and a spiritual writer

    28th June 2019
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    Interview with Elizabeth Johnsen: woman and mother on a path of healing and transformation

    29th January 2018
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    Interview with Laura Lee: Therapist and Coach at Scapegoats Anonymous

    19th April 2019
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    Healing & Recovery

    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018 /

    I’ve spent a good deal of time digging up my past, exploring my psyche and searching for answers and truth. I found a lot of pain, sadness, hurt and sorrow. Not only that, of course, but I’ve been focused mainly on the difficult aspects since I wanted to heal them and release myself from the emotional prison I’ve lived in my whole life. For the first part of our life we don’t realise any of this, we simply act out these painful aspects of our past that were lodged into our subconscious. Sooner or later something happens to us to wake us up, become aware and heal the pain that’s…

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    Turning seasons and the possibility of new horizons

    27th September 2018
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    A solo adventure and a glance into a past life

    27th April 2017
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    Finding peace in the midst of a crisis

    1st October 2015
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal and grow to become their authentic selves and build an abundant life.

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