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    Start of the school year and the nervous system

    8th September 2022 /

    The start of the school year is pretty much the start of The Year for a parent. And here we are, another school year is beginning for our son in a few days. With all the arrangements and engagements around it, come all the stressors and negative emotions associated with it. Past experiences paint in black what’s to come in the future. It’s how trauma works. Trauma keeps you stuck in the past. Unresolved experiences and emotions from the past prevent you from moving forward and focusing on the here and now. Your nervous system is stuck in a threat response and focused purely on ensuring survival. It’s biologically not…

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    Remembering what matters: on being social, school troubles and birthdays

    18th February 2016
    Trips and Insights From Around Bulgaria

    Trips and insights from around Bulgaria

    15th September 2016
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    The death of the Ego

    1st October 2015
  • Trauma Healing

    The good, the bad, and everything in between – the blessings of another Christmas

    27th December 2021 /

    So there we have it – Christmas is done and gone, for another year. A magical and somewhat sad time. On the day before Christmas, Sylvie was already stressing that Christmas will be gone soon. It’s hard living and being in the moment, even for an 8-year-old kid. You wait for this special day and before you know it – it’s in the past. But before that, there was the opening of the presents! Who doesn’t love presents?! And not because of the stuff you get, but because of the thoughtfulness of the people who give you the presents. That is a feeling you want to keep with yourself for…

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    Life and life’s challenges

    17th July 2017
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    The anatomy of desire and manifesting

    28th September 2017
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    Letting go (of what no longer serves us) never goes out of fashion

    2nd January 2020
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    Trauma Healing

    A turning point on my healing journey – experiencing an emotional flashback and remembering my past

    1st March 2020 /

    A few days ago I had my most intense emotional flashback. Now, if you don’t know what is an emotional flashback or what it feels like, you’re not alone. For sure, I’ve read about them in my research on childhood trauma and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) but I haven’t experienced one. Or at least I didn’t know at the time. An emotional flashback is an intense emotional reaction, many describe it as a sort of flooding of emotion, usually as a result of a trigger – an event, a situation, it could be something someone says, and how that makes you feel. Triggers could be many and they…

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    Oh, how I miss…

    4th September 2021
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    A powerful start to a new year

    15th January 2018
    Trips and Insights From Around Bulgaria

    Trips and insights from around Bulgaria

    15th September 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    I am the person I am today because of my trauma, not despite it

    19th December 2019 /

    My biggest battle is accepting my childhood trauma and the effects it has had and continues to have on my life and its overall quality. More accurately, I struggle the most with accepting that because of my posttraumatic stress responses, my role as a mother has been impaired. As a victim of childhood abuse and trauma, I am especially sensitive towards the fact that because of my own “condition” my child is suffering too.  I can easily go down the spiral of blaming myself for not being the mother I wish I could be, for the things I have done or haven’t done because I wasn’t well myself. Because I am…

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    The year 2023 – Finding Safety Within and Reaching the Surface

    5th January 2024
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    How to work with difficult feelings

    20th March 2017
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    How relationships help us heal and transform

    8th October 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    4th December 2019 /

    For the last more than three months now I’ve been through a whirlwind of a storm. I’ve never thought that my son staring school will bring so much up. More and more I realise how isolated I’ve been and how much I’ve lost contact with the outside world. More accurately, I’ve suspected that but the clash of reentering seems to be taking me much more effort and costing me much more energy than I’ve ever imagined. I know there are many reasons for this – I am and always have been a very sensitive person and being away from work for 8 years now has put me in a very…

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    Autumn and the renewal of the soul: on priorities, anxiety and social media

    11th November 2015
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    Thoughts on self-love

    27th October 2016
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    Breaking free of our mental prisons

    9th June 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019 /

    I just had my second EMDR therapy session. In EMDR we focus on a particular memory from our life – usually a traumatic one. I was working with an image of me when I was a child and my mother who was particularly unresponsive to my needs. Just to remind you, at the beginning of therapy my therapist confirmed that I was emotionally deprived/neglected as a child. Since then I read the book Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Dr Jonice Webb which further helped me understand my “diagnosis”. The book very well explains what emotional neglect is – it’s not about what happened but about what…

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    Oh, how I miss…

    4th September 2021
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    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    4th December 2019
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    On the brink of dawn

    4th January 2018
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of May

    6th May 2019 /

    “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.” ~ Morrie Schwartz   Hey everyone! I can’t believe it’s already May and the spring is in full swing! In Bulgaria, this is one of the months with the most holidays and days off. I’m just back from some travelling in the country and some much needed reconnecting with nature. I spent a few days at my father’s house and if you’ve been following my posts, you know we have a “story” with him. Every time I visit, there is some unfolding and clarity gained and this time was no different.…

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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of June

    5th June 2019
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of April

    3rd April 2019
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of March

    4th March 2019
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the ability to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping others heal and grow to become their authentic selves and create an abundant life.

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