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    Trauma Healing

    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018 /

    I feel the last few years are catching up with me. Many feelings are coming up to the surface for first time to be illuminated. Things I realise for a first time ever. Things sometimes too grave. My life for the past 4 years has been grave in many ways. Not only, of course, but mostly. I realise now that as soon as my relationship with my partner began, it was stifled almost in the bud. Uninvited visitors, like death, grief, anxiety, came along and didn’t leave much of a space for us to breathe as a new family. My love for my partner was suffocated. My love for my…

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    How relationships help us heal and transform

    8th October 2016
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    I am the person I am today because of my trauma, not despite it

    19th December 2019
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    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    Coming out from the mud and continuing onward

    16th October 2017 /

    I am grateful for where I am on my journey. I am grateful for the mud I had to come through. I am grateful for the waters that held me while I was rising up. I am grateful for the air that touched my skin upon my resurfacing. I am grateful for the roots that kept me in place. I am grateful for the process, for the journey, for the experience, for my life. On 15th October it was 7 years since the death of my mother. Here’s what I wrote:   I was only 26 at the time. I remember trying to rationalise and intellectualise the shock of her…

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    Being the gods that we are

    22nd April 2016
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    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    4th December 2019
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    Saying Thanks

    31st December 2015
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    Spirituality

    Motherhood and enjoying the present moment

    2nd October 2017 /

    For a first time in my life I feel like I’m enjoying being a mother and my relationship with my son. I was too naive and maybe somewhat young when I became a mother. We’ve only been together with my partner for an year when I got pregnant. But we said yes to it, yes to all this family-making, children-raising thing. And it was good for a while. But soon it became clear that this isn’t what I thought it would be. It soon became clear that instead of building a family, there was a wall being built between me and everything around me. And I closed down and shut…

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    The beginning of a new journey: embracing minimalism

    28th January 2016
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    You and your feelings are valid

    24th July 2017
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    That girl – a birthday poem

    18th September 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    Breaking free of our mental prisons

    9th June 2016 /

    I mentioned in my last post that I’ve kept myself into a sort of a mental prison. After talking to my therapist about it and going for a walk after, it came to me – another piece of the puzzle. After the dreams about my past lives, I had another few empowering dreams – one symbolising letting go of the burden I’ve been carrying by throwing things out of a backpack I’ve been carrying, and another – expressing myself freely by singing to a song I don’t remember the words of but nevertheless singing loudly and freely. To me, those dreams symbolise my emotional release of the trauma I’ve been lugging around…

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    Self-doubt: get out of your head and into your heart

    14th February 2018
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    Cutting through clouds and fear

    17th October 2016

    The pandemic as an opportunity to continue healing – repairing what was once ruptured

    7th July 2021
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    Spirituality,  Trauma Healing

    A hopeful start and a pat on the back

    17th January 2016 /

    The New 2016 Year is here! Happy new beginnings to all! Before I start fully focusing on what’s coming this year I’d like to reflect on what was achieved and accomplished during 2015. I was scribbling a draft on December 31st and finished it at 11:49 pm. I was quick to go to bed, where my son and partner were already asleep, before it was New Year because I didn’t want to greet it on my own. The draft was a sort of a painfully honest personal rant. I wrote it down for myself and part of it included some very practical resolutions we’ve made in our household (understand: laundry…

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    Taking the first steps

    6th February 2016
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    Thoughts on self-love

    27th October 2016
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    Dreams of freedom and defining values

    25th September 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    The death of the self: on toddler troubles, being human and name change

    4th November 2015 /

    Sounds like an absurd combination of things and what does it have to do with the self? So here’s what happened last week – a mush of emotional turmoil, child’s excrement and personal transformation. My 2 1/2 year-old son Sylvian woke up in the middle of the night with a dreadful cough. He was wheezing and it sounded like he was barely able to breathe. I’ve never heard him like that, it sounded like he was suffocating. Together with my partner we wondered shall we go to the Emergency department. A short while later my son went back to sleep, still wheezing but at least able to breathe. In the morning…

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    The anatomy of desire and manifesting

    28th September 2017
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    On support and being in the flow

    19th April 2017
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    Birthday wishes and full moon magic

    22nd September 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    The death of the Ego

    1st October 2015 /

      I will pick up from the last note in my previous post. Coming out from a major life crisis takes a while. In fact I don’t think you are ever to come out of it in one piece. You do restore some of your wholeness but you are never the same – a part of you is dead. And this is good. But you don’t quite feel cheerful about it – you do need to mourn the loss of that part of yourself and that previous you. And it is OK to mourn for a while. But it is not OK to get stuck there. And here comes another…

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    Why holding space is so important in relationships

    11th October 2016
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    A new breath of life

    21st January 2016
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    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal and grow to become their authentic selves and build an abundant life.

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