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VILINA CHRISTOPH

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    Trauma & Healing

    A turning point on my healing journey – experiencing an emotional flashback and remembering my past

    A few days ago I had my most intense emotional flashback. Now, if you don’t know what is an emotional flashback or what it feels like, you’re not alone. For sure, I’ve read about them in my research on childhood trauma and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) but I haven’t experienced one. Or at least I didn’t know at the time. An emotional flashback is an intense emotional reaction, many describe it as a sort of flooding of emotion, usually as a result of a trigger – an event, a situation, it could be something someone says, and how that makes you feel. Triggers could be many and they…

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    Being present: getting to know and love ourselves

    22nd December 2015
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    Rewriting my story in a radical self-forgiveness context

    25th May 2016
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    Finding peace in the midst of a crisis

    1st October 2015
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    Trauma & Healing

    Letting go (of what no longer serves us) never goes out of fashion

    New year, new me? Well, there is no need for a new me every new year if you’re OK with yourself and feel enough as you are. But certainly, there are situations, relationships, even people that need to be let go of. More accurately – it’s the type of relationships I’m having with certain people, or even more accurately – the expectations I have from them. I’m going through an “interesting” process – as I’m healing my childhood trauma more and more, I realise the triggers and traps I fall into more and more. As early childhood trauma is an attachment trauma in its essence, it’s a relational trauma too. That…

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    You and your feelings are valid

    24th July 2017
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    Pain is the means, love is the end

    31st July 2017
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    On femininity: breathwork exercise and a mother’s message

    11th May 2017
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    Trauma & Healing

    I am the person I am today because of my trauma, not despite it

    My biggest battle is accepting my childhood trauma and the effects it has had and continues to have on my life and its overall quality. More accurately, I struggle the most with accepting that because of my posttraumatic stress responses, my role as a mother has been impaired. As a victim of childhood abuse and trauma, I am especially sensitive towards the fact that because of my own “condition” my child is suffering too.  I can easily go down the spiral of blaming myself for not being the mother I wish I could be, for the things I have done or haven’t done because I wasn’t well myself. Because I am…

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    New Beginnings 2.0

    19th December 2016
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    Being the gods that we are

    22nd April 2016
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    Trips and insights from around Bulgaria

    15th September 2016
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    Trauma & Healing

    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    For the last more than three months now I’ve been through a whirlwind of a storm. I’ve never thought that my son staring school will bring so much up. More and more I realise how isolated I’ve been and how much I’ve lost contact with the outside world. More accurately, I’ve suspected that but the clash of reentering seems to be taking me much more effort and costing me much more energy than I’ve ever imagined. I know there are many reasons for this – I am and always have been a very sensitive person and being away from work for 8 years now has put me in a very…

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    Forgiveness letter to myself

    11th April 2017
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    The choice is yours

    7th August 2017
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    Happy where I am

    13th September 2017
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    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Shyla Cash: Narcissistic abuse and emotional neglect survivor, and a coach at Grow Heal Change

    Shyla Cash is the life coach behind Grow Heal Change Coaching, a coaching practice that helps high-performers and creatives heal mind, body, and spirit. She believes childhood trauma can be a portal to experiencing our full potential. Shyla loves to witness the process of transformation as she guides her clients through the amazing journey into the life they desire. Her own trauma history involved a childhood filled with narcissistic abuse and emotional neglect. Through her own healing, she discovered the amazing ability for humans to transcend the pain of family dysfunction into confidence, personal power, resilience, and responsibility. Shyla just got married to her amazing husband Nathan, she loves to…

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    An unexpected healing experience during the holiday season

    31st December 2018
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    Working with the moon, its energy and phases

    19th March 2018
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    Past life explorations

    3rd June 2016
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    Trauma & Healing

    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    I just had my second EMDR therapy session. In EMDR we focus on a particular memory from our life – usually a traumatic one. I was working with an image of me when I was a child and my mother who was particularly unresponsive to my needs. Just to remind you, at the beginning of therapy my therapist confirmed that I was emotionally deprived/neglected as a child. Since then I read the book Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Dr Jonice Webb which further helped me understand my “diagnosis”. The book very well explains what emotional neglect is – it’s not about what happened but about what…

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    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019
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    Coming out from the mud and continuing onward

    16th October 2017
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    On support and being in the flow

    19th April 2017
  • Tanya Amidei Interview Image
    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Tanya Amidei: Sexual abuse survivor, life coach and a spiritual writer

    Tanya is one of the beautiful people I’ve met on Instagram. Her posts are deep and poetic and full of wisdom and truth. Her personal story is truly poignant but her strength, her spirit and her faith have transformed her into the woman she is today. Tanya is a Life Coach and writer who lives in Colorado Springs, Colorado. She is engaged and lives with an invisible illness called Dysautonomia, more specifically Ehler Danlos and POTS. She describes herself as a people person and some have called her a catalyst for human growth because of her innate ability to see people’s potential. She is passionate, a natural leader, values-oriented, intuitive…

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    Quiet confidence: living in alignment with what our souls desire

    2nd March 2017
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    Identifying triggers and breaking free from the past

    2nd May 2017
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    Motherhood and enjoying the present moment

    2nd October 2017
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    Trauma & Healing

    My Pain is My Power

    Two weeks ago I started seeing a therapist. During the two times we met, we talked and went over the details of my past. We started with memories from my childhood and moved towards the more recent past. We made a plan – a timeline of particularly traumatic experiences and we’re going to work with each memory and event separately. I haven’t had the opportunity to talk freely about my past and everything that has happened so far. I had a brief experience of therapy back in Ireland right after my sister died but at the time, I had no idea of the magnitude of traumatic stress I was experiencing.…

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    Reclaiming a lost self: an experience in my home country

    13th September 2016
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    Year 2015: what it brought to my family and what it taught me

    16th December 2015
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    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018
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    The Wonder List

    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of June

    “Every day may not be a good day, but there is something good in every day.” ~ unknown  &   “People say ‘find the good one and leave the bad ones’. But I say ‘find good in people and ignore the bad in them’ because no one is perfect.” ~ unknown   Hey Beautiful! It’s the month of June and we’re heading into summer with full speed. Personally, the last two weeks were emotional. My son and I had an unpleasant experience in his kindergarten and, if you’ve followed me for a while, you’ll know it’s not the first time. Things reached a culmination point and Tuesday last week was his…

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    A solo adventure and a glance into a past life

    27th April 2017
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    Turning seasons and the possibility of new horizons

    27th September 2018
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    Birthday wishes and full moon magic

    22nd September 2016
  • Dari Frampton Interview Image
    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Dari Frampton: A woman on a journey of transformation, healing & discovering her true self

    Dari is an old friend from my teenage years back in my hometown. For more than a decade I haven’t heard from her until one day in 2017 Dari got in touch with me while experiencing a personal crisis. She was on the verge of her own spiritual journey of self-discovery and awareness. Since that day, we’ve restored our connection and find ourselves on a very similar path of awakening and healing. By day Dari is a portrait and wedding photographer who loves capturing beautiful moments for people. She has always loved the creative arts but recently she’s grown a deep interest in studying psychology, astrology, ancient healing and wisdom…

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    On support and being in the flow

    19th April 2017
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of May

    6th May 2019
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    Interview with Alexis Rose: Author of Untangled, a story of resilience, courage, and triumph

    29th March 2017
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing and recovery from childhood trauma and abuse. I use words to transmute the pain and adversity into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal, grow and feel empowered to build and live a full authentic life.

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