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VILINA CHRISTOPH

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    Trauma & Healing

    Waving goodbye to the past

    I feel the last few years are catching up with me. Many feelings are coming up to the surface for first time to be illuminated. Things I realise for a first time ever. Things sometimes too grave. My life for the past 4 years has been grave in many ways. Not only, of course, but mostly. I realise now that as soon as my relationship with my partner began, it was stifled almost in the bud. Uninvited visitors, like death, grief, anxiety, came along and didn’t leave much of a space for us to breathe as a new family. My love for my partner was suffocated. My love for my…

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    Letting go (of what no longer serves us) never goes out of fashion

    2nd January 2020
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    Life and life’s challenges

    17th July 2017
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    Follow your feelings

    11th September 2017
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    Trauma & Healing

    On the brink of dawn

    As we enter into 2018, I cannot quite get myself into thinking about resolutions, setting intentions or goals. I cannot even summon my mind to reflect back on the year 2017. I feel somewhere in between, not quite ready to let go of the old year and not quite there to welcome the new one. Perhaps this is natural, for some of us. Just as I try and think about what the past year has brought my way, I almost freeze. It’s been so much, there’s been so many lessons, too many experiences and feelings. I don’t know if I can summarise all of it in one post, one sentence,…

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    Why holding space is so important in relationships

    11th October 2016
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    A turning point on my healing journey – experiencing an emotional flashback and remembering my past

    1st March 2020
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    The death of the self: on toddler troubles, being human and name change

    4th November 2015
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    Trauma & Healing

    Coming out from the mud and continuing onward

    I am grateful for where I am on my journey. I am grateful for the mud I had to come through. I am grateful for the waters that held me while I was rising up. I am grateful for the air that touched my skin upon my resurfacing. I am grateful for the roots that kept me in place. I am grateful for the process, for the journey, for the experience, for my life. On 15th October it was 7 years since the death of my mother. Here’s what I wrote:   I was only 26 at the time. I remember trying to rationalise and intellectualise the shock of her…

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    The hidden gift in every difficulty

    6th July 2017
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    Why holding space is so important in relationships

    11th October 2016
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    Identifying triggers and breaking free from the past

    2nd May 2017
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    Spirituality

    Dear beautiful you

    Dear, I love you! I cherish you! I thank you for being the vessel for my soul! You are beautiful, you are worthy, you are precious! You deserve to be happy, you deserve to follow your dreams, you deserve to honour your path. You don’t have to hold on to the past, you do not need to keep the painful memories, you do not need to suffer anymore. You don’t have to be unhappy because someone else is unhappy, you do not need to commiserate with their pain. That won’t help ease their pain, that won’t make them feel better. You have the right to put your needs first, you…

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    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016
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    Reclaiming a lost self: an experience in my home country

    13th September 2016
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    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019
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    Spirituality

    That girl – a birthday poem

    As a birthday present to myself I wrote this poem. It’s as much a celebration of my own existence and divinity as of any other woman and human being. It is our birthright to be loved and celebrated and today I celebrate with all of you. <3 That Girl That girl, She’s been through a lot. That girl, She’s touched the rock bottom. That girl, She’s been in the trenches. That girl, She’s been through thick and thin. … That girl. She’s rising up. That girl, She’s remembering how to fly. That girl, An ocean of wisdom and grace, That girl, You’ll never forget her face. … She’s the girl…

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    Web Wonderland No.1: How to heal childhood trauma, speak with confidence and say “yes” to everything

    5th February 2017
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    Breaking free of our mental prisons

    9th June 2016
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    Pain is the means, love is the end

    31st July 2017
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    Spirituality

    To my dear child

    I thought I was coping with my reality until I realised that I was just trying to escape from it. The key to enjoying my life is to actually embrace it, as it is. I was running away from you, thinking you were the problem. When in fact, you are the one who will hold me through the problem. Regardless of everything else, I have the greatest gift of life  – you, my child. My son – my mirror, my reflection. All my pain projected onto you. I called you many things – all projections of what I’ve been hurting from in my life and relationships. My dear child, you’re…

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    On support and being in the flow

    19th April 2017
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    How trauma and codependency in childhood can cause toxic mommy guilt

    6th November 2018
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    Interview with Shyla Cash: Narcissistic abuse and emotional neglect survivor, and a coach at Grow Heal Change

    26th July 2019
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    Spirituality

    You deserve your love

    How comfortable are you with yourself? Are you accepting of yourself? What do you feel when you look in the mirror? What’s your first thought when you see a picture of yourself? Love yourself! It may be hard at first, it may even sound absurd. Believe me, I know first hand. But you deserve your love more than anyone else. Give it to yourself, even if it feels ridiculous and silly. It’s the only way towards happiness and fulfillment in life. It’s the first step towards self-realisation and inner peace. Nobody else will give you that love. It can only come from you to you. It’s your only obligation in…

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    Past life explorations

    3rd June 2016
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    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016
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    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018
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    Trauma & Healing

    The power is within you

    Last month was an emotional rollercoaster. And I know I say that more often than not. But I won’t be able to describe it any other way. Now, I have learned that what really matters is how you respond to the adversity, what you do with your feelings, what you make out of your experiences. It’s probably true that life is just going to keep throwing sour lemons or rotten tomatoes or whatever at us. But what counts is how we take that and what we make of it. “Are you going to drink the lemon juice or are you going to make some lemonade?” You see, the power is…

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    Pain is the means, love is the end

    31st July 2017
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    Why holding space is so important in relationships

    11th October 2016
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    How relationships help us heal and transform

    8th October 2016
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    Spirituality

    Pain is the means, love is the end

    No matter what pain you may experience in your life it is because we need to remember unconditional love. Even when you hurt, try finding the undying love within you and emanate that love. You may ask “What’s the point of pain?”, “Why do we feel pain?”. I know I’ve asked these questions. The answer is: So that we remember. So that we remember that we are born with love, that we are love, that love is all. Pain is the means, love is the end. Love is the beginning, love is everything. Pain comes into our life so that we can find this deep place inside us where all the…

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    Being the gods that we are

    22nd April 2016
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    Past life explorations

    3rd June 2016
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    Reclaiming our wholeness

    17th March 2016
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    Spirituality

    Life and life’s challenges

    Life and life’s challenges is the inspiration for our creative expression in and our gifts to the world. Life’s drama is what’s fuelling our growth, our expansion, and evolution. Going through life’s challenges is what gives you the opportunity to realise your worth, your value, your confidence. Although I am dealing with adversity right now I do not feel mentally tired or overwhelmed. On the contrary, I feel inspired, fuelled, motivated, I draw inspiration and meaning out of the experience, I feel I am growing internally every minute with the experience and learning so much about myself, my strength, my power, my worth. Alchemy in its workings!!! I am finally…

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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of May

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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing and recovery from childhood trauma and abuse. I use words to transmute the pain and adversity into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal, grow and feel empowered to build and live a full authentic life.

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