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    Trauma Healing

    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018 /

    I feel the last few years are catching up with me. Many feelings are coming up to the surface for first time to be illuminated. Things I realise for a first time ever. Things sometimes too grave. My life for the past 4 years has been grave in many ways. Not only, of course, but mostly. I realise now that as soon as my relationship with my partner began, it was stifled almost in the bud. Uninvited visitors, like death, grief, anxiety, came along and didn’t leave much of a space for us to breathe as a new family. My love for my partner was suffocated. My love for my…

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    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    4th December 2019
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    Cutting through clouds and fear

    17th October 2016
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    Finding your authentic blend of expression

    13th June 2018
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    Trauma Healing

    On the brink of dawn

    4th January 2018 /

    As we enter into 2018, I cannot quite get myself into thinking about resolutions, setting intentions or goals. I cannot even summon my mind to reflect back on the year 2017. I feel somewhere in between, not quite ready to let go of the old year and not quite there to welcome the new one. Perhaps this is natural, for some of us. Just as I try and think about what the past year has brought my way, I almost freeze. It’s been so much, there’s been so many lessons, too many experiences and feelings. I don’t know if I can summarise all of it in one post, one sentence,…

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    A hopeful start and a pat on the back

    17th January 2016
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    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018
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    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    Coming out from the mud and continuing onward

    16th October 2017 /

    I am grateful for where I am on my journey. I am grateful for the mud I had to come through. I am grateful for the waters that held me while I was rising up. I am grateful for the air that touched my skin upon my resurfacing. I am grateful for the roots that kept me in place. I am grateful for the process, for the journey, for the experience, for my life. On 15th October it was 7 years since the death of my mother. Here’s what I wrote:   I was only 26 at the time. I remember trying to rationalise and intellectualise the shock of her…

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    Autumn and the renewal of the soul: on priorities, anxiety and social media

    11th November 2015

    The pandemic as an opportunity to continue healing – repairing what was once ruptured

    7th July 2021
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    Showing up for ourselves: an experience of a photo session

    30th June 2016
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    Spirituality

    Dear beautiful you

    9th October 2017 /

    Dear, I love you! I cherish you! I thank you for being the vessel for my soul! You are beautiful, you are worthy, you are precious! You deserve to be happy, you deserve to follow your dreams, you deserve to honour your path. You don’t have to hold on to the past, you do not need to keep the painful memories, you do not need to suffer anymore. You don’t have to be unhappy because someone else is unhappy, you do not need to commiserate with their pain. That won’t help ease their pain, that won’t make them feel better. You have the right to put your needs first, you…

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    Using crystals to access the subconscious and heal deep wounds

    28th November 2017
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    September astrology vibes and dives

    14th September 2016
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    A hopeful start and a pat on the back

    17th January 2016
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    Spirituality

    That girl – a birthday poem

    18th September 2017 /

    As a birthday present to myself I wrote this poem. It’s as much a celebration of my own existence and divinity as of any other woman and human being. It is our birthright to be loved and celebrated and today I celebrate with all of you. <3 That Girl That girl, She’s been through a lot. That girl, She’s touched the rock bottom. That girl, She’s been in the trenches. That girl, She’s been through thick and thin. … That girl. She’s rising up. That girl, She’s remembering how to fly. That girl, An ocean of wisdom and grace, That girl, You’ll never forget her face. … She’s the girl…

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    You and your feelings are valid

    24th July 2017
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    You deserve your love

    14th August 2017
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    Follow your feelings

    11th September 2017
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    Spirituality

    To my dear child

    4th September 2017 /

    I thought I was coping with my reality until I realised that I was just trying to escape from it. The key to enjoying my life is to actually embrace it, as it is. I was running away from you, thinking you were the problem. When in fact, you are the one who will hold me through the problem. Regardless of everything else, I have the greatest gift of life  – you, my child. My son – my mirror, my reflection. All my pain projected onto you. I called you many things – all projections of what I’ve been hurting from in my life and relationships. My dear child, you’re…

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    Birthday wishes and full moon magic

    22nd September 2016
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    Thoughts on self-love

    27th October 2016
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    You deserve your love

    14th August 2017
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    Spirituality

    You deserve your love

    14th August 2017 /

    How comfortable are you with yourself? Are you accepting of yourself? What do you feel when you look in the mirror? What’s your first thought when you see a picture of yourself? Love yourself! It may be hard at first, it may even sound absurd. Believe me, I know first hand. But you deserve your love more than anyone else. Give it to yourself, even if it feels ridiculous and silly. It’s the only way towards happiness and fulfillment in life. It’s the first step towards self-realisation and inner peace. Nobody else will give you that love. It can only come from you to you. It’s your only obligation in…

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    Dreams of freedom and defining values

    25th September 2016
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    A hopeful start and a pat on the back

    17th January 2016
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    Motherhood and enjoying the present moment

    2nd October 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    The power is within you

    2nd August 2017 /

    Last month was an emotional rollercoaster. And I know I say that more often than not. But I won’t be able to describe it any other way. Now, I have learned that what really matters is how you respond to the adversity, what you do with your feelings, what you make out of your experiences. It’s probably true that life is just going to keep throwing sour lemons or rotten tomatoes or whatever at us. But what counts is how we take that and what we make of it. “Are you going to drink the lemon juice or are you going to make some lemonade?” You see, the power is…

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    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019
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    Finding your authentic blend of expression

    13th June 2018

    Start of the school year and the nervous system

    8th September 2022
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    Spirituality

    Pain is the means, love is the end

    31st July 2017 /

    No matter what pain you may experience in your life it is because we need to remember unconditional love. Even when you hurt, try finding the undying love within you and emanate that love. You may ask “What’s the point of pain?”, “Why do we feel pain?”. I know I’ve asked these questions. The answer is: So that we remember. So that we remember that we are born with love, that we are love, that love is all. Pain is the means, love is the end. Love is the beginning, love is everything. Pain comes into our life so that we can find this deep place inside us where all the…

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    Showing up for ourselves: an experience of a photo session

    30th June 2016
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    You and your feelings are valid

    24th July 2017
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    Dear beautiful you

    9th October 2017
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    Spirituality

    Life and life’s challenges

    17th July 2017 /

    Life and life’s challenges is the inspiration for our creative expression in and our gifts to the world. Life’s drama is what’s fuelling our growth, our expansion, and evolution. Going through life’s challenges is what gives you the opportunity to realise your worth, your value, your confidence. Although I am dealing with adversity right now I do not feel mentally tired or overwhelmed. On the contrary, I feel inspired, fuelled, motivated, I draw inspiration and meaning out of the experience, I feel I am growing internally every minute with the experience and learning so much about myself, my strength, my power, my worth. Alchemy in its workings!!! I am finally…

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    Reclaiming a lost self: an experience in my home country

    13th September 2016
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    Motherhood and enjoying the present moment

    2nd October 2017
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    A hopeful start and a pat on the back

    17th January 2016
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal and grow to become their authentic selves and build an abundant life.

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