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    Eclipse season, covid and hitting rock bottom

    17th November 2022 /

    The migraine started one day before the first eclipse on October 25th – a solar eclipse in Scorpio, which is where the south lunar node is located at the moment and where my natal south node also is. Without going into details, the lunar nodes are an important part of one’s astrological birth chart. Very generally speaking, the south node indicates where we feel comfortable and is connected with our past and the north node is where our soul wants to progress and grow, and that usually feels unfamiliar and scary. The lunar nodes are positioned on an axis and now the south node is in Scorpio and the north…

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    Year 2015: what it brought to my family and what it taught me

    16th December 2015
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    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018
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    Rewriting my story in a radical self-forgiveness context

    25th May 2016
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    The good, the bad, and everything in between – the blessings of another Christmas

    27th December 2021 /

    So there we have it – Christmas is done and gone, for another year. A magical and somewhat sad time. On the day before Christmas, Sylvie was already stressing that Christmas will be gone soon. It’s hard living and being in the moment, even for an 8-year-old kid. You wait for this special day and before you know it – it’s in the past. But before that, there was the opening of the presents! Who doesn’t love presents?! And not because of the stuff you get, but because of the thoughtfulness of the people who give you the presents. That is a feeling you want to keep with yourself for…

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    Working with the inner child: illuminations and release

    1st June 2017
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    Sacred Mothering: how to be a soulful mother on a spiritual path

    23rd November 2017

    What I learned from my physical and mental instability episode

    18th July 2018
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    Oh, how I miss…

    4th September 2021 /

    I’m back in Sofia. It’s been three weeks since we came back from the country and a seaside holiday. I feel that as soon as I stepped into the city, the wheel started turning at light speed. Each day is filled with work and responsibilities and I barely have any time for myself. I’m sure you’re probably experiencing something similar – I mean, ain’t that life today? Personally, my life changed (differently) since the beginning of the pandemic. Around that time last year, I started working as a freelance translator and my work has been increasing and intensifying ever since. This is something good considering that I hadn’t been working…

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    Inner Child Therapy: Working with the father and mother roles

    12th April 2017
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    Reclaiming a lost self: an experience in my home country

    13th September 2016

    The pandemic as an opportunity to continue healing – repairing what was once ruptured

    7th July 2021
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    The importance of keeping the connection with yourself

    25th July 2021 /

    I’ve been staying at my father’s house for two weeks now. Because he lives in England, we don’t get to spend much time together. In fact, we’ve been living in different parts of the world for the last almost 15 years. However, every year for the last 5 years he’s been coming to visit his childhood home and I’ve been using this opportunity to spend time with him. We’ve been through many stages in our mutual life journey. We’ve certainly had many difficult phases but somehow we’re managing to keep our relationship alive. Furthermore, every single year has been different as I’ve been progressing on my healing path. Still, in…

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    Here and now: being grateful for another year

    1st January 2017
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    Acceptance: the path to change

    5th February 2018
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    Being the gods that we are

    22nd April 2016
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    The pandemic as an opportunity to continue healing – repairing what was once ruptured

    7th July 2021 /

    It’s been more than a year since my last post. As the pandemic was taking over the world and thus dominating our concerns and worries, I retrieved into my inner world. At the beginning of it all, I was happy that I could take the time to disconnect from the daily stressors of life. I was wise enough to use the time to truly sink in the experience of continuing my healing journey. Spending the days with my son, who was at home all day, gave us an opportunity for much “repair” to be done. In attachment theory, the “good enough parent” is not a perfect parent. The good-enough parents…

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    Identifying triggers and breaking free from the past

    2nd May 2017
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    How relationships help us heal and transform

    8th October 2016
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    The power is within you

    2nd August 2017
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    A turning point on my healing journey – experiencing an emotional flashback and remembering my past

    1st March 2020 /

    A few days ago I had my most intense emotional flashback. Now, if you don’t know what is an emotional flashback or what it feels like, you’re not alone. For sure, I’ve read about them in my research on childhood trauma and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) but I haven’t experienced one. Or at least I didn’t know at the time. An emotional flashback is an intense emotional reaction, many describe it as a sort of flooding of emotion, usually as a result of a trigger – an event, a situation, it could be something someone says, and how that makes you feel. Triggers could be many and they…

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    The death of the self: on toddler troubles, being human and name change

    4th November 2015

    The pandemic as an opportunity to continue healing – repairing what was once ruptured

    7th July 2021
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    A hopeful start and a pat on the back

    17th January 2016
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    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019 /

    I just had my second EMDR therapy session. In EMDR we focus on a particular memory from our life – usually a traumatic one. I was working with an image of me when I was a child and my mother who was particularly unresponsive to my needs. Just to remind you, at the beginning of therapy my therapist confirmed that I was emotionally deprived/neglected as a child. Since then I read the book Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Dr Jonice Webb which further helped me understand my “diagnosis”. The book very well explains what emotional neglect is – it’s not about what happened but about what…

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    On support and being in the flow

    19th April 2017
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    Quiet confidence: living in alignment with what our souls desire

    2nd March 2017
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    My Pain is My Power

    17th June 2019
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal and grow to become their authentic selves and build an abundant life.

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