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    Trauma Healing

    An unexpected healing experience during the holiday season

    31st December 2018 /

    I am writing this on 31 December 2018 and so far this holiday season has proven unexpected. For first time ever my partner, son and I got to stay at home for the holidays. No travelling, no other people’s traditions or expectations – we put the start and foundation of our family tradition. This is something I’ve longed for for a very long time. I’ve never had a strong family of my own and I barely have any memories of our time together, if there was any “togetherness” at all. Having my own family has always been like a guiding star for me – something I’ve always, even subconsciously, strived for.…

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    Sacred Mothering: how to be a soulful mother on a spiritual path

    23rd November 2017
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    Self-doubt: get out of your head and into your heart

    14th February 2018
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    Past life explorations

    3rd June 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018 /

    I’ve spent a good deal of time digging up my past, exploring my psyche and searching for answers and truth. I found a lot of pain, sadness, hurt and sorrow. Not only that, of course, but I’ve been focused mainly on the difficult aspects since I wanted to heal them and release myself from the emotional prison I’ve lived in my whole life. For the first part of our life we don’t realise any of this, we simply act out these painful aspects of our past that were lodged into our subconscious. Sooner or later something happens to us to wake us up, become aware and heal the pain that’s…

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    On grief: the missing relationship with the mother

    19th May 2016
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    Learning to love ourselves

    30th December 2015

    Eclipse season, covid and hitting rock bottom

    17th November 2022
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    Trauma Healing

    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018 /

    I feel the last few years are catching up with me. Many feelings are coming up to the surface for first time to be illuminated. Things I realise for a first time ever. Things sometimes too grave. My life for the past 4 years has been grave in many ways. Not only, of course, but mostly. I realise now that as soon as my relationship with my partner began, it was stifled almost in the bud. Uninvited visitors, like death, grief, anxiety, came along and didn’t leave much of a space for us to breathe as a new family. My love for my partner was suffocated. My love for my…

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    Showing up for ourselves: an experience of a photo session

    30th June 2016
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    The shame around being a “bad mother”

    2nd November 2018
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    How trauma and codependency in childhood can cause toxic mommy guilt

    6th November 2018
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    Trauma Healing

    Sacred Mothering: how to be a soulful mother on a spiritual path

    23rd November 2017 /

    For a long time I’ve lived two separate lives – a life of an unfolding spiritual journey and purpose and a life as an everyday mother, partner and housewife. The first one happens mostly within me and I get to share it here with you, my readers and online friends, but I don’t express much outwardly in my day-to-day doings. The second life happens in the hours when I’m not working on myself or writing down my discoveries and realisations – it happens when I pick up my son from kindergarten and we spend the afternoons together outside or at home. Those two lives sometimes clash with each other and…

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    Working with the inner child: unleashing unconditional self-love

    23rd March 2017
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    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    4th December 2019
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    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016
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    Motherhood and enjoying the present moment

    2nd October 2017 /

    For a first time in my life I feel like I’m enjoying being a mother and my relationship with my son. I was too naive and maybe somewhat young when I became a mother. We’ve only been together with my partner for an year when I got pregnant. But we said yes to it, yes to all this family-making, children-raising thing. And it was good for a while. But soon it became clear that this isn’t what I thought it would be. It soon became clear that instead of building a family, there was a wall being built between me and everything around me. And I closed down and shut…

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    You and your feelings are valid

    24th July 2017
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    Using crystals to access the subconscious and heal deep wounds

    28th November 2017
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    Dreams of freedom and defining values

    25th September 2016
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    To my dear child

    4th September 2017 /

    I thought I was coping with my reality until I realised that I was just trying to escape from it. The key to enjoying my life is to actually embrace it, as it is. I was running away from you, thinking you were the problem. When in fact, you are the one who will hold me through the problem. Regardless of everything else, I have the greatest gift of life  – you, my child. My son – my mirror, my reflection. All my pain projected onto you. I called you many things – all projections of what I’ve been hurting from in my life and relationships. My dear child, you’re…

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    Reclaiming a lost self: an experience in my home country

    13th September 2016
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    Follow your feelings

    11th September 2017
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    A hopeful start and a pat on the back

    17th January 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Coming full circle

    16th August 2017 /

    Last time I mentioned I couldn’t wait for my holidays away from the city and all that has been happening for the last few months. Now, it’s been two weeks into August and I’m just starting to feel some sort of relief and relaxation. It was somewhat hectic and messy so far actually. My son and I are currently staying in my granny’s house where we spent our winter with my partner just after we moved from Ireland to Bulgaria and before we moved to the capital. My father was also here but left today and the house has quietened down a bit, hence being able to write. My son…

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    Learning to trust: connecting to our inner wisdom

    5th May 2016
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    Reclaiming our wholeness

    17th March 2016

    A breast screening and a message of trust

    6th December 2022
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    Trauma Healing

    Working with the inner child: illuminations and release

    1st June 2017 /

    I’m nearly finished with my Inner Child Therapy. It’s been more than 10 weeks now and it’s been illuminating. It wasn’t as scary and traumatic as I was picturing it but it has been eye-opening and sometimes heart-breaking. I’ve had numerous “aha” moments, things I would’ve probably never known haven’t I done the work. In a way my realisations were more simple, and perhaps even quite common, than I have expected. Nevertheless, it’s been mind-boggling. The two main themes in terms of what I received or didn’t receive from my parents are described below. From my father: My father was busy and occupied with his work. His work was his…

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    Forgiveness letter to myself

    11th April 2017
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    Coming out from the mud and continuing onward

    16th October 2017
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    A new breath of life

    21st January 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Identifying triggers and breaking free from the past

    2nd May 2017 /

    I’m realising I’ve been a prisoner of my past. More or less, everyone of us is. Until the time we decide we’re not and we break free. I am seeing how experiences from my past determine the way I act on daily basis, or more accurately – re-act.  Doing the inner child work opens a lot of closed doors – you start seeing and understanding why and how. You see your present self as a projection of your past – you’re nothing more but a shadow of a past self but you’re not your self. But it’s not really meant to be like this. Although we are connected to our…

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    Letting go of guilt

    29th April 2016
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    The Rise of the Feminine and the next stage of my spiritual journey

    28th May 2018
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    Past life explorations

    3rd June 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Inner Child Therapy: Working with the father and mother roles

    12th April 2017 /

    Sessions number two and three from my Working with the Inner Child therapy were about getting into the role of the father and the mother and voicing everything that comes through: their words, messages, lessons, ways of punishment and rewarding, etc. In the session when I had to “be” my father I could barely find any words he had said to me when I was young. I was remembering messages from older years very clearly but I couldn’t get back to the early years of my childhood. During the session, feeling my inner child, I felt distance at first. Like my dad wanted to say something but he kept it inside,…

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    Autumn and the renewal of the soul: on priorities, anxiety and social media

    11th November 2015
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    My Pain is My Power

    17th June 2019
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    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal and grow to become their authentic selves and build an abundant life.

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