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    The importance of keeping the connection with yourself

    25th July 2021 /

    I’ve been staying at my father’s house for two weeks now. Because he lives in England, we don’t get to spend much time together. In fact, we’ve been living in different parts of the world for the last almost 15 years. However, every year for the last 5 years he’s been coming to visit his childhood home and I’ve been using this opportunity to spend time with him. We’ve been through many stages in our mutual life journey. We’ve certainly had many difficult phases but somehow we’re managing to keep our relationship alive. Furthermore, every single year has been different as I’ve been progressing on my healing path. Still, in…

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    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018
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    Dreams of freedom and defining values

    25th September 2016
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    Letting go of guilt

    29th April 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Letting go (of what no longer serves us) never goes out of fashion

    2nd January 2020 /

    New year, new me? Well, there is no need for a new me every new year if you’re OK with yourself and feel enough as you are. But certainly, there are situations, relationships, even people that need to be let go of. More accurately – it’s the type of relationships I’m having with certain people, or even more accurately – the expectations I have from them. I’m going through an “interesting” process – as I’m healing my childhood trauma more and more, I realise the triggers and traps I fall into more and more. As early childhood trauma is an attachment trauma in its essence, it’s a relational trauma too. That…

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    Soul Searching

    10th October 2015
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    Autumn and the renewal of the soul: on priorities, anxiety and social media

    11th November 2015
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    A message from the goddess Isis

    8th November 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    I am the person I am today because of my trauma, not despite it

    19th December 2019 /

    My biggest battle is accepting my childhood trauma and the effects it has had and continues to have on my life and its overall quality. More accurately, I struggle the most with accepting that because of my posttraumatic stress responses, my role as a mother has been impaired. As a victim of childhood abuse and trauma, I am especially sensitive towards the fact that because of my own “condition” my child is suffering too.  I can easily go down the spiral of blaming myself for not being the mother I wish I could be, for the things I have done or haven’t done because I wasn’t well myself. Because I am…

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    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    4th December 2019
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    Learning to trust: connecting to our inner wisdom

    5th May 2016
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    Accepting our shadow as a way back to wholeness

    6th June 2018
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of March

    4th March 2019 /

    “What actually sustain us, what is fundamentally beautiful, is compassion for yourself and for those around you.” ~ Lupita Nyong’o Goal for the month: Garnering inspiration, building healthy habits and continuing to practice your craft.   Things I’m grateful for and bring me joy: ♥ Standing up for myself and fiercely loving myself ♥ Speaking up my truth without fearing rejection ♥ Honest conversations with loved ones ♥ Voicing concerns and venting frustrations ♥ Quiet and minimal places ♥ No distraction and noises ♥ Fresh air and blue skies ♥ Playing with my son on the floor ♥ Making coffee and cooking breakfast ♥ Drinking tea in the park ♥ Setting up an editorial calendar ♥ Inspiration flow ♥ Bulding momentum ♥…

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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of May

    6th May 2019
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of June

    5th June 2019
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of April

    3rd April 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    An unexpected healing experience during the holiday season

    31st December 2018 /

    I am writing this on 31 December 2018 and so far this holiday season has proven unexpected. For first time ever my partner, son and I got to stay at home for the holidays. No travelling, no other people’s traditions or expectations – we put the start and foundation of our family tradition. This is something I’ve longed for for a very long time. I’ve never had a strong family of my own and I barely have any memories of our time together, if there was any “togetherness” at all. Having my own family has always been like a guiding star for me – something I’ve always, even subconsciously, strived for.…

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    Four things I’ve learned from going through a crisis

    29th October 2015
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    Quiet confidence: living in alignment with what our souls desire

    2nd March 2017
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    Coming out from the mud and continuing onward

    16th October 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    How childhood trauma robs your power away and how to take it back

    15th November 2018 /

    This summer I spent about a month at my father’s house with my son. It wasn’t our first time and, as I’d expected, it was tumultuous. A part of me knew it was time to stand up to some of the dysfunction in my family of origin and confront it. I could only hope that this experience was going to bring me some resolutions and it would prove empowering. And it did. For the first week or so the usual, generations-old, themes of guilt and shame, insecurity and inadequacy were saturating the air until it came to a boil. There were tears and screaming, anger and pain – suppressed emotions and…

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    Remembering what matters: on being social, school troubles and birthdays

    18th February 2016
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    Finding peace in the midst of a crisis

    1st October 2015
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    A message from the goddess Isis

    8th November 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Turning seasons and the possibility of new horizons

    27th September 2018 /

    Weather in Bulgaria has turned and it’s been really chilly for the last couple of days – we woke up to a 1°C/33°F morning in Sofia. It will be getting slightly warmer next week but, even so, autumn is upon us. I just flipped the calendar into October (although there’s a few more days) because I usually remember to do it when we’re well into the new month so I used this rare opportunity of remembering in advance. Doing this I flashbacked to when I first put the calendar up on the wall early in January. And here we are, just a few more days and we will be in…

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    Breaking free of our mental prisons

    9th June 2016
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    How childhood trauma robs your power away and how to take it back

    15th November 2018
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    Happy where I am

    13th September 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018 /

    I’ve spent a good deal of time digging up my past, exploring my psyche and searching for answers and truth. I found a lot of pain, sadness, hurt and sorrow. Not only that, of course, but I’ve been focused mainly on the difficult aspects since I wanted to heal them and release myself from the emotional prison I’ve lived in my whole life. For the first part of our life we don’t realise any of this, we simply act out these painful aspects of our past that were lodged into our subconscious. Sooner or later something happens to us to wake us up, become aware and heal the pain that’s…

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    What I learned from my physical and mental instability episode

    18th July 2018
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    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019

    A breast screening and a message of trust

    6th December 2022
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    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Elizabeth Johnsen: woman and mother on a path of healing and transformation

    29th January 2018 /

    In 2015 Elizabeth contacted me through my blog – she was the very first person to reach out in such a way. Quickly we felt a much deeper connection which grew into a friendship. Even though we’ve never met in person I feel we’ve known each other for lifetimes. I know Elizabeth has been through some hard times recently and it was painful to witness her journey “from afar” but nevertheless, I never stopped feeling for her. I’m happy to see and say that she has overcome the darkness. Here are Elizabeth’s own words: Tell us a little bit about your life journey. I was raised in New Zealand by…

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    Interview with Dari Frampton: A woman on a journey of transformation, healing & discovering her true self

    24th May 2019
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    Interview with Laura Lee: Therapist and Coach at Scapegoats Anonymous

    19th April 2019
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    Interview with Jonelle du Pont: blogger and writer at Tyranny of Pink

    26th July 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    Working with the inner child: illuminations and release

    1st June 2017 /

    I’m nearly finished with my Inner Child Therapy. It’s been more than 10 weeks now and it’s been illuminating. It wasn’t as scary and traumatic as I was picturing it but it has been eye-opening and sometimes heart-breaking. I’ve had numerous “aha” moments, things I would’ve probably never known haven’t I done the work. In a way my realisations were more simple, and perhaps even quite common, than I have expected. Nevertheless, it’s been mind-boggling. The two main themes in terms of what I received or didn’t receive from my parents are described below. From my father: My father was busy and occupied with his work. His work was his…

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    Four things I’ve learned from going through a crisis

    29th October 2015
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    A turning point on my healing journey – experiencing an emotional flashback and remembering my past

    1st March 2020

    What I learned from my physical and mental instability episode

    18th July 2018
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal and grow to become their authentic selves and build an abundant life.

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