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    Trauma Healing

    The shame around being a “bad mother”

    2nd November 2018 /

    Sometimes I resent being a mother. That is not to say that I don’t love my child. Unlike my mother and some mothers who can’t love, I do love my son. With all my heart and soul, always and forever. I believe all mothers have moments when they resent motherhood. I believe that the contemporary expectation to be a non-stop happy and vibrant mother is not only unrealistic, it’s also severely shaming and stigmatising. It makes natural temporary feelings of dissatisfaction or unfulfillment fester into gnawing guilt. That makes me think how terribly unprepared and largely delusional so many mothers enter into motherhood, including me. I wanted my child with…

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    Eclipse season, covid and hitting rock bottom

    17th November 2022
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    On the brink of dawn

    4th January 2018
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    Here and now: being grateful for another year

    1st January 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    A message from the goddess Isis

    8th November 2016 /

    Last night I picked a card from my Goddess Guidance oracle cards. I picked Isis – Past Life: Your roots upon this planet are strong and deep, and some of the roots have anchored you in past memories from faraway times. These roots have anchored you so deeply, in fact, that you’re paralyzed when it comes to moving forward. I’ve called your attention to this condition so that you may  unearth and uproot past memories. Some times you bury those memories to shield yourself from psychic pain or embarrassment, so you won’t remember those awkward moments when life tested you to the maximum. Reveal those lessons to yourself now, strong sorceress,…

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    Letting go (of what no longer serves us) never goes out of fashion

    2nd January 2020
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    Why holding space is so important in relationships

    11th October 2016
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    Coming full circle

    16th August 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016 /

    I recently went for an amatsu massage therapy as a birthday gift. The therapist is a friend of our family and she knows the details of my personal story. I first met her when I moved into the town where we live now, and she’s been following our four-year time period here since the birth of our son. So when I met her after some six months since our previous meet-up, she exclaimed: “You look gorgeous!” I shied away and said that I’m only dressed casual. When she asked what birthday that was and I answered that it was my 32nd, she explained again: “Look how far you’ve come!” I shied away again,…

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    I am the person I am today because of my trauma, not despite it

    19th December 2019

    Start of the school year and the nervous system

    8th September 2022
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    Crisis as a call for change and how to integrate it in your life

    21st November 2015
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    Trauma Healing

    Past life explorations

    3rd June 2016 /

    Last time I put my story under a different light and illuminated it within a new perspective. I looked into my life from the angle of radical (self) forgiveness. In short, radical forgiveness is about the idea that whatever happened to us (seeing ourselves as victim) or whatever we did to someone else (seeing ourselves as perpetrator), nothing wrong ever occurred. The people participating in the event on both sides have agreed on spiritual level to experience it so their souls can evolve. It’s all perfect and as it should be. Thus, skipping the traditional meaning of forgiveness, we address our concerns to our spiritual self and forgive whomever hurt us or ourselves…

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    On the brink of dawn

    4th January 2018
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    The four steps of personal transformation

    30th January 2017
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    The beginning of a new journey: embracing minimalism

    28th January 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    On grief: the missing relationship with the mother

    19th May 2016 /

    If you ask me how my life has been the last couple of years, I probably wouldn’t say it has been full of grief. It would be one of the first things to cross my mind but I wouldn’t say it. I would probably divert to being a mom and looking after a household, which is true but it’s only half of my world. The grief and everything it brings – I’ve put aside in the back pocket of my mind. It wasn’t until I started listening to the audiobook Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Cheryl Strayed, that I felt how much grief I still carry in me.…

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    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016

    Oh, how I miss…

    4th September 2021
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    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018
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    Trauma Healing

    Letting go of guilt

    29th April 2016 /

    In this post I’d like to discuss the feeling of guilt – in particular the guilt inherited from our parents and the way we carry this within us through life. I believe guilt can play out in our lives in two ways: the guilt our parents felt towards us when we were young (and perhaps still feel) and how that affected us in becoming whole beings the guilt we carry over for our parents and we as parents feel towards our children. And I believe this guilt is carried through the generations. Perhaps this is a new concept for you but bear with me. If you find yourself feeling guilty in situations…

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    Start of the school year and the nervous system

    8th September 2022
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    Forgiveness letter to myself

    11th April 2017
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    The hidden gift in every difficulty

    6th July 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    Reclaiming our wholeness

    17th March 2016 /

    Last time I touched upon the subject of childhood and the beliefs we form as little children. Beliefs that are very often unaligned with our truth and distorted by the immature minds we possess at very early age. In this post I’ll strive to explain better what that means and how it happens. I draw my conclusions solely from my own experience and the realisations I’ve made during my journey of better understanding myself. My hope is that you will be able to find your own truth in what I have to say! I’m sure some of you are familiar with the concept of inner child work and healing the wounded child within…

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    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019
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    Forgiveness letter to myself

    11th April 2017
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    An unexpected healing experience during the holiday season

    31st December 2018
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the ability to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping others heal and grow to become their authentic selves and create an abundant life.

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