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  • A turning point in my journey image
    Healing & Recovery

    A turning point on my healing journey – experiencing an emotional flashback and remembering my past

    A few days ago I had my most intense emotional flashback. Now, if you don’t know what is an emotional flashback or what it feels like, you’re not alone. For sure, I’ve read about them in my research on childhood trauma and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) but I haven’t experienced one. Or at least I didn’t know at the time. An emotional flashback is an intense emotional reaction, many describe it as a sort of flooding of emotion, usually as a result of a trigger – an event, a situation, it could be something someone says, and how that makes you feel. Triggers could be many and they…

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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of April

    3rd April 2019
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of June

    5th June 2019
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    Taking the first steps

    6th February 2016
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    Healing & Recovery

    Letting go (of what no longer serves us) never goes out of fashion

    New year, new me? Well, there is no need for a new me every new year if you’re OK with yourself and feel enough as you are. But certainly, there are situations, relationships, even people that need to be let go of. More accurately – it’s the type of relationships I’m having with certain people, or even more accurately – the expectations I have from them. I’m going through an “interesting” process – as I’m healing my childhood trauma more and more, I realise the triggers and traps I fall into more and more. As early childhood trauma is an attachment trauma in its essence, it’s a relational trauma too. That…

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    A new breath of life

    21st January 2016
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    Interview with Laura Lee: Therapist and Coach at Scapegoats Anonymous

    19th April 2019
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    On support and being in the flow

    19th April 2017
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    Healing & Recovery

    I am the person I am today because of my trauma, not despite it

    My biggest battle is accepting my childhood trauma and the effects it has had and continues to have on my life and its overall quality. More accurately, I struggle the most with accepting that because of my posttraumatic stress responses, my role as a mother has been impaired. As a victim of childhood abuse and trauma, I am especially sensitive towards the fact that because of my own “condition” my child is suffering too.  I can easily go down the spiral of blaming myself for not being the mother I wish I could be, for the things I have done or haven’t done because I wasn’t well myself. Because I am…

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    How trauma and codependency in childhood can cause toxic mommy guilt

    6th November 2018
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    Finding your authentic blend of expression

    13th June 2018
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    Cutting through clouds and fear

    17th October 2016
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    Healing & Recovery

    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    For the last more than three months now I’ve been through a whirlwind of a storm. I’ve never thought that my son staring school will bring so much up. More and more I realise how isolated I’ve been and how much I’ve lost contact with the outside world. More accurately, I’ve suspected that but the clash of reentering seems to be taking me much more effort and costing me much more energy than I’ve ever imagined. I know there are many reasons for this – I am and always have been a very sensitive person and being away from work for 8 years now has put me in a very…

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    A powerful start to a new year

    15th January 2018
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    Motherhood and enjoying the present moment

    2nd October 2017
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    The shame around being a “bad mother”

    2nd November 2018
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    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Shyla Cash: Narcissistic abuse and emotional neglect survivor, and a coach at Grow Heal Change

    Shyla Cash is the life coach behind Grow Heal Change Coaching, a coaching practice that helps high-performers and creatives heal mind, body, and spirit. She believes childhood trauma can be a portal to experiencing our full potential. Shyla loves to witness the process of transformation as she guides her clients through the amazing journey into the life they desire. Her own trauma history involved a childhood filled with narcissistic abuse and emotional neglect. Through her own healing, she discovered the amazing ability for humans to transcend the pain of family dysfunction into confidence, personal power, resilience, and responsibility. Shyla just got married to her amazing husband Nathan, she loves to…

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    Birthday wishes and full moon magic

    22nd September 2016
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    Accepting our shadow as a way back to wholeness

    6th June 2018
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of April

    3rd April 2019
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    Healing & Recovery

    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    I just had my second EMDR therapy session. In EMDR we focus on a particular memory from our life – usually a traumatic one. I was working with an image of me when I was a child and my mother who was particularly unresponsive to my needs. Just to remind you, at the beginning of therapy my therapist confirmed that I was emotionally deprived/neglected as a child. Since then I read the book Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Dr Jonice Webb which further helped me understand my “diagnosis”. The book very well explains what emotional neglect is – it’s not about what happened but about what…

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    Quiet confidence: living in alignment with what our souls desire

    2nd March 2017
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    How relationships help us heal and transform

    8th October 2016
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    The four steps of personal transformation

    30th January 2017
  • Tanya Amidei Interview Image
    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Tanya Amidei: Sexual abuse survivor, life coach and a spiritual writer

    Tanya is one of the beautiful people I’ve met on Instagram. Her posts are deep and poetic and full of wisdom and truth. Her personal story is truly poignant but her strength, her spirit and her faith have transformed her into the woman she is today. Tanya is a Life Coach and writer who lives in Colorado Springs, Colorado. She is engaged and lives with an invisible illness called Dysautonomia, more specifically Ehler Danlos and POTS. She describes herself as a people person and some have called her a catalyst for human growth because of her innate ability to see people’s potential. She is passionate, a natural leader, values-oriented, intuitive…

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    Breaking free of our mental prisons

    9th June 2016
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    Reclaiming a lost self: an experience in my home country

    13th September 2016
    Trips and Insights From Around Bulgaria

    Trips and insights from around Bulgaria

    15th September 2016
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    Healing & Recovery

    My Pain is My Power

    Two weeks ago I started seeing a therapist. During the two times we met, we talked and went over the details of my past. We started with memories from my childhood and moved towards the more recent past. We made a plan – a timeline of particularly traumatic experiences and we’re going to work with each memory and event separately. I haven’t had the opportunity to talk freely about my past and everything that has happened so far. I had a brief experience of therapy back in Ireland right after my sister died but at the time, I had no idea of the magnitude of traumatic stress I was experiencing.…

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    Coming full circle

    16th August 2017
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of June

    5th June 2019
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    Cutting through clouds and fear

    17th October 2016
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    The Wonder List

    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of June

    “Every day may not be a good day, but there is something good in every day.” ~ unknown  &   “People say ‘find the good one and leave the bad ones’. But I say ‘find good in people and ignore the bad in them’ because no one is perfect.” ~ unknown   Hey Beautiful! It’s the month of June and we’re heading into summer with full speed. Personally, the last two weeks were emotional. My son and I had an unpleasant experience in his kindergarten and, if you’ve followed me for a while, you’ll know it’s not the first time. Things reached a culmination point and Tuesday last week was his…

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    The power is within you

    2nd August 2017
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    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016
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    Honouring how far we have come

    18th January 2017
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    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Dari Frampton: A woman on a journey of transformation, healing & discovering her true self

    Dari is an old friend from my teenage years back in my hometown. For more than a decade I haven’t heard from her until one day in 2017 Dari got in touch with me while experiencing a personal crisis. She was on the verge of her own spiritual journey of self-discovery and awareness. Since that day, we’ve restored our connection and find ourselves on a very similar path of awakening and healing. By day Dari is a portrait and wedding photographer who loves capturing beautiful moments for people. She has always loved the creative arts but recently she’s grown a deep interest in studying psychology, astrology, ancient healing and wisdom…

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    Life and life’s challenges

    17th July 2017
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    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016
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    Interview with Alexis Rose: Author of Untangled, a story of resilience, courage, and triumph

    29th March 2017
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Hello & Welcome

I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing and recovery from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain and adversity into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal, grow and build an abundant and authentic life .

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