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    Trauma Healing

    The shame around being a “bad mother”

    2nd November 2018 /

    Sometimes I resent being a mother. That is not to say that I don’t love my child. Unlike my mother and some mothers who can’t love, I do love my son. With all my heart and soul, always and forever. I believe all mothers have moments when they resent motherhood. I believe that the contemporary expectation to be a non-stop happy and vibrant mother is not only unrealistic, it’s also severely shaming and stigmatising. It makes natural temporary feelings of dissatisfaction or unfulfillment fester into gnawing guilt. That makes me think how terribly unprepared and largely delusional so many mothers enter into motherhood, including me. I wanted my child with…

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    The good, the bad, and everything in between – the blessings of another Christmas

    27th December 2021
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    Letting go of guilt

    29th April 2016
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    An unexpected healing experience during the holiday season

    31st December 2018
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    Trauma Healing

    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018 /

    I’ve spent a good deal of time digging up my past, exploring my psyche and searching for answers and truth. I found a lot of pain, sadness, hurt and sorrow. Not only that, of course, but I’ve been focused mainly on the difficult aspects since I wanted to heal them and release myself from the emotional prison I’ve lived in my whole life. For the first part of our life we don’t realise any of this, we simply act out these painful aspects of our past that were lodged into our subconscious. Sooner or later something happens to us to wake us up, become aware and heal the pain that’s…

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    A hopeful start and a pat on the back

    17th January 2016
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    A strange day… in a beautiful and vulnerable way

    7th March 2017
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    The Rise of the Feminine and the next stage of my spiritual journey

    28th May 2018
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    Trauma Healing

    Working with the inner child: illuminations and release

    1st June 2017 /

    I’m nearly finished with my Inner Child Therapy. It’s been more than 10 weeks now and it’s been illuminating. It wasn’t as scary and traumatic as I was picturing it but it has been eye-opening and sometimes heart-breaking. I’ve had numerous “aha” moments, things I would’ve probably never known haven’t I done the work. In a way my realisations were more simple, and perhaps even quite common, than I have expected. Nevertheless, it’s been mind-boggling. The two main themes in terms of what I received or didn’t receive from my parents are described below. From my father: My father was busy and occupied with his work. His work was his…

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    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016
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    Learning to love ourselves

    30th December 2015
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    Sacred Mothering: how to be a soulful mother on a spiritual path

    23rd November 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    Identifying triggers and breaking free from the past

    2nd May 2017 /

    I’m realising I’ve been a prisoner of my past. More or less, everyone of us is. Until the time we decide we’re not and we break free. I am seeing how experiences from my past determine the way I act on daily basis, or more accurately – re-act.  Doing the inner child work opens a lot of closed doors – you start seeing and understanding why and how. You see your present self as a projection of your past – you’re nothing more but a shadow of a past self but you’re not your self. But it’s not really meant to be like this. Although we are connected to our…

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    My dance with astrology: on anger, revolutionaries and colouring

    3rd December 2015
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    A new breath of life

    21st January 2016
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    On the brink of dawn

    4th January 2018
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    Trauma Healing

    Inner Child Therapy: Working with the father and mother roles

    12th April 2017 /

    Sessions number two and three from my Working with the Inner Child therapy were about getting into the role of the father and the mother and voicing everything that comes through: their words, messages, lessons, ways of punishment and rewarding, etc. In the session when I had to “be” my father I could barely find any words he had said to me when I was young. I was remembering messages from older years very clearly but I couldn’t get back to the early years of my childhood. During the session, feeling my inner child, I felt distance at first. Like my dad wanted to say something but he kept it inside,…

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    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019
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    Birthday wishes and full moon magic

    22nd September 2016

    The importance of keeping the connection with yourself

    25th July 2021
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    Trauma Healing

    Working with the inner child: unleashing unconditional self-love

    23rd March 2017 /

    Last Thursday I started Inner Child Work with a therapist. We will be meeting for 10 sessions over 10 weeks. As it normally happens, I found this person “randomly” (I believe through an Instagram post, which is somewhat odd). I followed through the post, went to her website and found some really nice blog posts and stories. Of course, the Inner Child Work just struck me on the spot and instantly I knew I had to do it. That happened some time in January. And even that it took us a little while to move and settle in Sofia, I knew I shouldn’t change my mind and get in touch…

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    What I learned from my physical and mental instability episode

    18th July 2018
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    Dreams of freedom and defining values

    25th September 2016
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    Accepting our shadow as a way back to wholeness

    6th June 2018
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    Web Wonderland

    Web Wonderland No.1: How to heal childhood trauma, speak with confidence and say “yes” to everything

    5th February 2017 /

    Hey You! This week I’m introducing a new feature on the blog, Web Wonderland. Here you will read valuable information I find around the web that is worth sharing. I’ll strive to make these posts as regular as I can. They will be mainly pieces on personal development & transformation, spiritual growth & evolution, healing & empowerment, and other stuff that promotes our blossoming into the whole, fulfilled and authentic people we are meant to be. So get yourself a cup of your favourite drink, sit back and enjoy! ♦ As I often do, I look into our childhood where lots of our issues stem from. Here are two pieces on…

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    Web Wonderland No.6 & what I’ve been up to: My hyper-active mind + books, tv, and useful links

    21st May 2017
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    Web Wonderland No.3: New life coming to fruition, crazy eclipse season, and a special bind magic

    19th February 2017
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    Web Wonderland No.7: Back from holidays, stand-up-real-talk comedy, and unleashing our women’s power

    15th July 2018
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    Trauma Healing

    Becoming our true selves

    2nd March 2016 /

    I had a revelation – I had put my life on pause. About 3 years ago I unconsciously put my own life on hold. What happened at that time is that I moved in with my partner and we had a baby. Life drastically changed as I moved out of my flat in Dublin city and moved in a quieter area nearby; I said goodbye to single life living with my best friend and embraced sharing a relationship and a 3 bedroom house with my boyfriend. I also lost my job and not long after that we got pregnant. It was a life overhaul. I switched identities over a few months. Consciously…

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    Past life explorations

    3rd June 2016
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    Heal yourself, heal the world

    27th March 2018
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    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    4th December 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    Remembering what matters: on being social, school troubles and birthdays

    18th February 2016 /

    Currently there’s about three planets residing in or near the realms of Aquarius, including the sun. That means we all get to experience a lot of Aquarian qualities. And if you don’t know what these are, I’ll give you a hint – the representatives of this zodiac sign are called “the social butterflies” of the zodiac wheel. No wonder I haven’t been able to get to my blog in ages. But that doesn’t mean I’ve been quiet on the social front. Besides ruling social groups and settings, Aquarius also rules internet and technology. Yes, you guessed it – I’ve been busy communicating with people through any media possible – email, messaging, phone, and in person. And no,…

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    Reclaiming our wholeness

    17th March 2016
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    Working with the inner child: illuminations and release

    1st June 2017
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    Crisis as a call for change and how to integrate it in your life

    21st November 2015
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    Trauma Healing

    Year 2015: what it brought to my family and what it taught me

    16th December 2015 /

    I am going to talk to my son’s teacher tomorrow. My son, Sylvian, is nearly 3 years old and he is going to a Montessori preschool. I prefer to call it just “school” and the people taking care of him there – teachers.I want to talk to her, I will call her Jackie, and give her some background information. But let me give you some information about my son first. He started at this school in late September and he’s going 5 mornings a week for 3 hours. At the beginning he was thrilled to go there. It was a new place that’s not home and is full of toys…

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    The pandemic as an opportunity to continue healing – repairing what was once ruptured

    7th July 2021
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    Acceptance: the path to change

    5th February 2018
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    “If I only could make them happy…”

    16th May 2019
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal and grow to become their authentic selves and build an abundant life.

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