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  • How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself image
    Trauma Healing

    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019 /

    Last Monday I applied for a job position as a writer. It’s been many years since I worked as an employee and I’ve experienced a fair bit of disappointments on the professional front. But I thought all this was behind me now and since the opportunity was ticking my boxes and I met the requirements, I went for it with my best intentions. The hiring company was the online publication Bright Side and they wanted me to pass a test. After a couple of days of communicating with the HR, a broken link, and a slight delay, I got to the challenge. I didn’t pass it. But let me start from…

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    Sacred Mothering: how to be a soulful mother on a spiritual path

    23rd November 2017
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    Finding your authentic blend of expression

    13th June 2018
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    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019
  • Trauma Healing

    What I learned from my physical and mental instability episode

    18th July 2018 /

    (Long post alert) I’m just back from my holidays in Greece. We spent 11 days on the stunning islands in the Ionian sea on west coast of the country. I’d been prepping for this journey for months, organising diligently and planning fervently. I’ve waited passionately and eagerly until the day came. The complications started on the day before our trip. It appeared that our car’s documents were out of date and needed to be renewed. It was Saturday and we were supposed to leave the next day, Sunday. We decided not to risk passing the border with invalid documents so had to wait till the offices opened on Monday. That…

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    Crisis as a call for change and how to integrate it in your life

    21st November 2015
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    An unexpected healing experience during the holiday season

    31st December 2018
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    Past life explorations

    3rd June 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Accepting our shadow as a way back to wholeness

    6th June 2018 /

    The key to joyful happy full life is the acceptance of all of yourself. It was C.G. Jung who first developed the concept of the “shadow” – we all have parts of ourselves that we would rather hide than show to ourselves or the world. These are those qualities we deem “unacceptable” due to many reasons – perhaps our parents told us that such and such people are bad, or to be this and this is wrong. Or it was our culture and community we grew up in that portrayed certain characteristics in a negative way. At a very early age, we learn to disassociate from these qualities in ourselves…

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    Acceptance: the path to change

    5th February 2018
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    On grief: the missing relationship with the mother

    19th May 2016
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    The shame around being a “bad mother”

    2nd November 2018
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    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Elizabeth Johnsen: woman and mother on a path of healing and transformation

    29th January 2018 /

    In 2015 Elizabeth contacted me through my blog – she was the very first person to reach out in such a way. Quickly we felt a much deeper connection which grew into a friendship. Even though we’ve never met in person I feel we’ve known each other for lifetimes. I know Elizabeth has been through some hard times recently and it was painful to witness her journey “from afar” but nevertheless, I never stopped feeling for her. I’m happy to see and say that she has overcome the darkness. Here are Elizabeth’s own words: Tell us a little bit about your life journey. I was raised in New Zealand by…

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    Interview with Alexis Rose: Author of Untangled, a story of resilience, courage, and triumph

    29th March 2017
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    Interview with Laura Lee: Therapist and Coach at Scapegoats Anonymous

    19th April 2019
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    Interview with Shyla Cash: Narcissistic abuse and emotional neglect survivor, and a coach at Grow Heal Change

    26th July 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018 /

    I feel the last few years are catching up with me. Many feelings are coming up to the surface for first time to be illuminated. Things I realise for a first time ever. Things sometimes too grave. My life for the past 4 years has been grave in many ways. Not only, of course, but mostly. I realise now that as soon as my relationship with my partner began, it was stifled almost in the bud. Uninvited visitors, like death, grief, anxiety, came along and didn’t leave much of a space for us to breathe as a new family. My love for my partner was suffocated. My love for my…

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    Being present: getting to know and love ourselves

    22nd December 2015
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    Turning seasons and the possibility of new horizons

    27th September 2018
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    You’re not alone in your pain

    25th September 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    Motherhood and enjoying the present moment

    2nd October 2017 /

    For a first time in my life I feel like I’m enjoying being a mother and my relationship with my son. I was too naive and maybe somewhat young when I became a mother. We’ve only been together with my partner for an year when I got pregnant. But we said yes to it, yes to all this family-making, children-raising thing. And it was good for a while. But soon it became clear that this isn’t what I thought it would be. It soon became clear that instead of building a family, there was a wall being built between me and everything around me. And I closed down and shut…

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    Taking the first steps

    6th February 2016
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    Embracing our (complex) human nature

    13th June 2017
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    Birthday wishes and full moon magic

    22nd September 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Embracing our (complex) human nature

    13th June 2017 /

    Hey everyone, I’ve missed you! I often find myself distracted in many ways in life. Then I start feeling very anxious and then I realise it often is because I haven’t written in a while. (I know I’ve said that before.) The thing is that when we’re by ourselves, not really doing anything creative, our minds can run wild. It’s like our minds are looking hard to find something to do and when we’re not giving them that, they starts going rampant in our heads. Do you feel that sometimes? I can’t pin point why this is happening, why we still procrastinate, even when we know the process quite well.…

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    Pain is the means, love is the end

    31st July 2017
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    Working with the inner child: unleashing unconditional self-love

    23rd March 2017
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    On gratitude

    20th December 2015
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    Trauma Healing

    How to work with difficult feelings

    20th March 2017 /

    “Happiness is not only our birthright. It is also our obligation.” The days and weeks roll by and I find it hard to sit and write. Too much is going through my head but can’t seem to be able to stop, sit and capture it. What I’ve been struggling with for the last weeks is to find the meaning. The meaning of it all. I keep ask myself Why am I here? What’s the point of it? You see the days go on – work, school, whatever, then home, and on it goes. Sometimes it feels so pointless, so hard to find a meaning to keep going. Then I tell myself…

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    The good, the bad, and everything in between – the blessings of another Christmas

    27th December 2021
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    Moving towards joy

    7th September 2017
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    “If I only could make them happy…”

    16th May 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    Rewriting my story in a radical self-forgiveness context

    25th May 2016 /

    “I am here to deal with my fear of isolation, loneliness and loss. I have chosen my parents, sibling, partner, child, close friends, and my life circumstances so they can support my soul’s evolution. My mother temporarily left me for 5 years when I was 10 years old. Then she permanently left my life when I was 26. By doing so, she first opened a hole in me as a young child, and then she made that hole graver, bigger and deeper by leaving this world altogether. When my mum first left she prepared me for encountering a greater feeling of loneliness and loss later in my life. When she…

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    Identifying triggers and breaking free from the past

    2nd May 2017
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    Embracing our (complex) human nature

    13th June 2017
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    To my dear child

    4th September 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    Being the gods that we are

    22nd April 2016 /

    A lot has happened the last couple of weeks. Perhaps the most important announcement to make is that I started visiting a psychotherapist, for the first time in my life! This week was our forth meeting and I’m liking it! I believe my therapist enjoys our conversations too. I feel good about it and the most significant thing is that I’m getting support that I’ve never experienced in my life before! And by that I mean – listening, understanding, validating, encouraging, supporting, non-judgmentally. Besides being able to share my thoughts and worries in a safe place, for the first time I actually feel heard and acknowledged for simply being who I am and…

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    Taking the first steps

    6th February 2016
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    Self-doubt: get out of your head and into your heart

    14th February 2018
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    Motherhood and enjoying the present moment

    2nd October 2017
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the ability to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping others heal and grow to become their authentic selves and create an abundant life.

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