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    Healing & Recovery

    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019 /

    Last Monday I applied for a job position as a writer. It’s been many years since I worked as an employee and I’ve experienced a fair bit of disappointments on the professional front. But I thought all this was behind me now and since the opportunity was ticking my boxes and I met the requirements, I went for it with my best intentions. The hiring company was the online publication Bright Side and they wanted me to pass a test. After a couple of days of communicating with the HR, a broken link, and a slight delay, I got to the challenge. I didn’t pass it. But let me start from…

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    A strange day… in a beautiful and vulnerable way

    7th March 2017
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    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    4th December 2019
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    My dance with astrology: on anger, revolutionaries and colouring

    3rd December 2015
  • Healing & Recovery

    What I learned from my physical and mental instability episode

    18th July 2018 /

    (Long post alert) I’m just back from my holidays in Greece. We spent 11 days on the stunning islands in the Ionian sea on west coast of the country. I’d been prepping for this journey for months, organising diligently and planning fervently. I’ve waited passionately and eagerly until the day came. The complications started on the day before our trip. It appeared that our car’s documents were out of date and needed to be renewed. It was Saturday and we were supposed to leave the next day, Sunday. We decided not to risk passing the border with invalid documents so had to wait till the offices opened on Monday. That…

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    Reclaiming our wholeness

    17th March 2016
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    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019

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    4th September 2021
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    Healing & Recovery

    Accepting our shadow as a way back to wholeness

    6th June 2018 /

    The key to joyful happy full life is the acceptance of all of yourself. It was C.G. Jung who first developed the concept of the “shadow” – we all have parts of ourselves that we would rather hide than show to ourselves or the world. These are those qualities we deem “unacceptable” due to many reasons – perhaps our parents told us that such and such people are bad, or to be this and this is wrong. Or it was our culture and community we grew up in that portrayed certain characteristics in a negative way. At a very early age, we learn to disassociate from these qualities in ourselves…

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    My Pain is My Power

    17th June 2019
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    How relationships help us heal and transform

    8th October 2016
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    The Rise of the Feminine and the next stage of my spiritual journey

    28th May 2018
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    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Elizabeth Johnsen: woman and mother on a path of healing and transformation

    29th January 2018 /

    In 2015 Elizabeth contacted me through my blog – she was the very first person to reach out in such a way. Quickly we felt a much deeper connection which grew into a friendship. Even though we’ve never met in person I feel we’ve known each other for lifetimes. I know Elizabeth has been through some hard times recently and it was painful to witness her journey “from afar” but nevertheless, I never stopped feeling for her. I’m happy to see and say that she has overcome the darkness. Here are Elizabeth’s own words: Tell us a little bit about your life journey. I was raised in New Zealand by…

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    Interview with Jonelle du Pont: blogger and writer at Tyranny of Pink

    26th July 2017
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    Interview with Kathy Garland: blogger, writer and inspirational author at Kwoted

    27th June 2018
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    Interview with Tanya Amidei: Sexual abuse survivor, life coach and a spiritual writer

    28th June 2019
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    Healing & Recovery

    Waving goodbye to the past

    10th January 2018 /

    I feel the last few years are catching up with me. Many feelings are coming up to the surface for first time to be illuminated. Things I realise for a first time ever. Things sometimes too grave. My life for the past 4 years has been grave in many ways. Not only, of course, but mostly. I realise now that as soon as my relationship with my partner began, it was stifled almost in the bud. Uninvited visitors, like death, grief, anxiety, came along and didn’t leave much of a space for us to breathe as a new family. My love for my partner was suffocated. My love for my…

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    Embracing our (complex) human nature

    13th June 2017

    The importance of keeping the connection with yourself

    25th July 2021
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    Inner Child Therapy: Working with the father and mother roles

    12th April 2017
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    Spirituality

    Motherhood and enjoying the present moment

    2nd October 2017 /

    For a first time in my life I feel like I’m enjoying being a mother and my relationship with my son. I was too naive and maybe somewhat young when I became a mother. We’ve only been together with my partner for an year when I got pregnant. But we said yes to it, yes to all this family-making, children-raising thing. And it was good for a while. But soon it became clear that this isn’t what I thought it would be. It soon became clear that instead of building a family, there was a wall being built between me and everything around me. And I closed down and shut…

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    Birthday wishes and full moon magic

    22nd September 2016
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    The beginning of a new journey: embracing minimalism

    28th January 2016
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    You’re not alone in your pain

    25th September 2017
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    Healing & Recovery

    Embracing our (complex) human nature

    13th June 2017 /

    Hey everyone, I’ve missed you! I often find myself distracted in many ways in life. Then I start feeling very anxious and then I realise it often is because I haven’t written in a while. (I know I’ve said that before.) The thing is that when we’re by ourselves, not really doing anything creative, our minds can run wild. It’s like our minds are looking hard to find something to do and when we’re not giving them that, they starts going rampant in our heads. Do you feel that sometimes? I can’t pin point why this is happening, why we still procrastinate, even when we know the process quite well.…

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    Honouring how far we have come

    18th January 2017
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    Acceptance: the path to change

    5th February 2018
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    How to work with difficult feelings

    20th March 2017
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    Healing & Recovery

    How to work with difficult feelings

    20th March 2017 /

    “Happiness is not only our birthright. It is also our obligation.” The days and weeks roll by and I find it hard to sit and write. Too much is going through my head but can’t seem to be able to stop, sit and capture it. What I’ve been struggling with for the last weeks is to find the meaning. The meaning of it all. I keep ask myself Why am I here? What’s the point of it? You see the days go on – work, school, whatever, then home, and on it goes. Sometimes it feels so pointless, so hard to find a meaning to keep going. Then I tell myself…

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    How my son starting school is helping me heal trauma

    4th December 2019
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    Saying Thanks

    31st December 2015
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    Setting ourselves free from the pain of the past

    20th June 2018
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    Healing & Recovery

    Rewriting my story in a radical self-forgiveness context

    25th May 2016 /

    “I am here to deal with my fear of isolation, loneliness and loss. I have chosen my parents, sibling, partner, child, close friends, and my life circumstances so they can support my soul’s evolution. My mother temporarily left me for 5 years when I was 10 years old. Then she permanently left my life when I was 26. By doing so, she first opened a hole in me as a young child, and then she made that hole graver, bigger and deeper by leaving this world altogether. When my mum first left she prepared me for encountering a greater feeling of loneliness and loss later in my life. When she…

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    How childhood trauma robs your power away and how to take it back

    15th November 2018
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    Identifying triggers and breaking free from the past

    2nd May 2017
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    The Rise of the Feminine and the next stage of my spiritual journey

    28th May 2018
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    Healing & Recovery

    Being the gods that we are

    22nd April 2016 /

    A lot has happened the last couple of weeks. Perhaps the most important announcement to make is that I started visiting a psychotherapist, for the first time in my life! This week was our forth meeting and I’m liking it! I believe my therapist enjoys our conversations too. I feel good about it and the most significant thing is that I’m getting support that I’ve never experienced in my life before! And by that I mean – listening, understanding, validating, encouraging, supporting, non-judgmentally. Besides being able to share my thoughts and worries in a safe place, for the first time I actually feel heard and acknowledged for simply being who I am and…

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    Learning to love ourselves

    30th December 2015
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    How trauma and codependency in childhood can cause toxic mommy guilt

    6th November 2018
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    Year 2015: what it brought to my family and what it taught me

    16th December 2015
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal and grow to become their authentic selves and build an abundant life.

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