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  • I am the person I am because of my trauma image
    Trauma Healing

    I am the person I am today because of my trauma, not despite it

    19th December 2019 /

    My biggest battle is accepting my childhood trauma and the effects it has had and continues to have on my life and its overall quality. More accurately, I struggle the most with accepting that because of my posttraumatic stress responses, my role as a mother has been impaired. As a victim of childhood abuse and trauma, I am especially sensitive towards the fact that because of my own “condition” my child is suffering too.  I can easily go down the spiral of blaming myself for not being the mother I wish I could be, for the things I have done or haven’t done because I wasn’t well myself. Because I am…

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    How relationships help us heal and transform

    8th October 2016
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    New Beginnings 2.0

    19th December 2016

    The pandemic as an opportunity to continue healing – repairing what was once ruptured

    7th July 2021
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    The Wonder List

    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of March

    4th March 2019 /

    “What actually sustain us, what is fundamentally beautiful, is compassion for yourself and for those around you.” ~ Lupita Nyong’o Goal for the month: Garnering inspiration, building healthy habits and continuing to practice your craft.   Things I’m grateful for and bring me joy: ♥ Standing up for myself and fiercely loving myself ♥ Speaking up my truth without fearing rejection ♥ Honest conversations with loved ones ♥ Voicing concerns and venting frustrations ♥ Quiet and minimal places ♥ No distraction and noises ♥ Fresh air and blue skies ♥ Playing with my son on the floor ♥ Making coffee and cooking breakfast ♥ Drinking tea in the park ♥ Setting up an editorial calendar ♥ Inspiration flow ♥ Bulding momentum ♥…

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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of April

    3rd April 2019
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of May

    6th May 2019
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    The Wonder List: Goal, Gratitude, Inspiration & Affirmation for the Month of June

    5th June 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019 /

    Last Monday I applied for a job position as a writer. It’s been many years since I worked as an employee and I’ve experienced a fair bit of disappointments on the professional front. But I thought all this was behind me now and since the opportunity was ticking my boxes and I met the requirements, I went for it with my best intentions. The hiring company was the online publication Bright Side and they wanted me to pass a test. After a couple of days of communicating with the HR, a broken link, and a slight delay, I got to the challenge. I didn’t pass it. But let me start from…

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    The shame around being a “bad mother”

    2nd November 2018
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    The death of the self: on toddler troubles, being human and name change

    4th November 2015
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    Finding peace in the midst of a crisis

    1st October 2015
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    Trauma Healing

    How childhood trauma robs your power away and how to take it back

    15th November 2018 /

    This summer I spent about a month at my father’s house with my son. It wasn’t our first time and, as I’d expected, it was tumultuous. A part of me knew it was time to stand up to some of the dysfunction in my family of origin and confront it. I could only hope that this experience was going to bring me some resolutions and it would prove empowering. And it did. For the first week or so the usual, generations-old, themes of guilt and shame, insecurity and inadequacy were saturating the air until it came to a boil. There were tears and screaming, anger and pain – suppressed emotions and…

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    Autumn and the renewal of the soul: on priorities, anxiety and social media

    11th November 2015
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    Reclaiming a lost self: an experience in my home country

    13th September 2016
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    Soul Searching

    10th October 2015
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    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Kathy Garland: blogger, writer and inspirational author at Kwoted

    27th June 2018 /

    I met Kathy in the wonderful blogging world and loved her stories and insights from first sight. I quickly committed to reading her blog Kwoted regularly and have never wasted my time – it’s full of practical wisdom, grounded spirituality, brilliant inspiration and deep transformation. I have the opportunity and pleasure to interview her and learn more about her healing journey. Here are Kathy’s own words: Tell us a little bit about your life journey. I was born and raised on the west side of Chicago. Shortly after I turned sixteen, my mother died from complications with kidney disease. A year after that, my father gave up his parental rights…

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    Interview with Elizabeth Johnsen: woman and mother on a path of healing and transformation

    29th January 2018
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    Interview with Tanya Amidei: Sexual abuse survivor, life coach and a spiritual writer

    28th June 2019
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    Interview with Laura Lee: Therapist and Coach at Scapegoats Anonymous

    19th April 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    Accepting our shadow as a way back to wholeness

    6th June 2018 /

    The key to joyful happy full life is the acceptance of all of yourself. It was C.G. Jung who first developed the concept of the “shadow” – we all have parts of ourselves that we would rather hide than show to ourselves or the world. These are those qualities we deem “unacceptable” due to many reasons – perhaps our parents told us that such and such people are bad, or to be this and this is wrong. Or it was our culture and community we grew up in that portrayed certain characteristics in a negative way. At a very early age, we learn to disassociate from these qualities in ourselves…

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    Coming full circle

    16th August 2017
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    Working with the inner child: illuminations and release

    1st June 2017
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    Happy where I am

    13th September 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    Self-doubt: get out of your head and into your heart

    14th February 2018 /

    I often find myself lost and wandering. I question choices, I search for direction, I grasp for guidance. Since I was a child I was never able to develop a healthy sense of self-worth and confidence. I battle with doubt every time I need to make a decision or take action. This could be mentally taxing and emotionally exhausting. The struggle to stay on top and in control of things is real and relentless. If I say or do something, I doubt whether it was the right thing or if I didn’t rush it. If I don’t say or do anything, I’m wondering whether I’m being too passive or too…

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    Learning to trust: connecting to our inner wisdom

    5th May 2016
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    Saying Thanks

    31st December 2015
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    Crisis as a call for change and how to integrate it in your life

    21st November 2015
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    Trauma Healing

    You and your feelings are valid

    24th July 2017 /

    Have you been told to stop being so emotional, so sensitive, so dramatic, to stop making such a big deal or fuss out of nothing? Have you felt like your feelings, the way you perceive the world, are being discredited all the time? Have you ended up doubting yourself and how you feel about things in general? It’s time we stop that nonsense and start raising the awareness. Being sensitive, emotional, an introvert, an empath, isn’t being a “less than”. It is who you are. It is who you are meant to be, it is enough, it is unique, it is beautiful and it is powerful. Your emotions are valid.…

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    Life and life’s challenges

    17th July 2017
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    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019
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    Coming out from the mud and continuing onward

    16th October 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    Life and life’s challenges

    17th July 2017 /

    Life and life’s challenges is the inspiration for our creative expression in and our gifts to the world. Life’s drama is what’s fuelling our growth, our expansion, and evolution. Going through life’s challenges is what gives you the opportunity to realise your worth, your value, your confidence. Although I am dealing with adversity right now I do not feel mentally tired or overwhelmed. On the contrary, I feel inspired, fuelled, motivated, I draw inspiration and meaning out of the experience, I feel I am growing internally every minute with the experience and learning so much about myself, my strength, my power, my worth. Alchemy in its workings!!! I am finally…

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    An unexpected healing experience during the holiday season

    31st December 2018
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    Learning to love ourselves

    30th December 2015

    A breast screening and a message of trust

    6th December 2022
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    Trauma Healing

    A message from the goddess Isis

    8th November 2016 /

    Last night I picked a card from my Goddess Guidance oracle cards. I picked Isis – Past Life: Your roots upon this planet are strong and deep, and some of the roots have anchored you in past memories from faraway times. These roots have anchored you so deeply, in fact, that you’re paralyzed when it comes to moving forward. I’ve called your attention to this condition so that you may  unearth and uproot past memories. Some times you bury those memories to shield yourself from psychic pain or embarrassment, so you won’t remember those awkward moments when life tested you to the maximum. Reveal those lessons to yourself now, strong sorceress,…

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    Working with the inner child: unleashing unconditional self-love

    23rd March 2017
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    On femininity: breathwork exercise and a mother’s message

    11th May 2017
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    Embracing our (complex) human nature

    13th June 2017
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the ability to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping others heal and grow to become their authentic selves and create an abundant life.

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