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    Trauma Healing

    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019 /

    Last Monday I applied for a job position as a writer. It’s been many years since I worked as an employee and I’ve experienced a fair bit of disappointments on the professional front. But I thought all this was behind me now and since the opportunity was ticking my boxes and I met the requirements, I went for it with my best intentions. The hiring company was the online publication Bright Side and they wanted me to pass a test. After a couple of days of communicating with the HR, a broken link, and a slight delay, I got to the challenge. I didn’t pass it. But let me start from…

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    How trauma and codependency in childhood can cause toxic mommy guilt

    6th November 2018

    Eclipse season, covid and hitting rock bottom

    17th November 2022
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    Birthday wishes and full moon magic

    22nd September 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    Turning seasons and the possibility of new horizons

    27th September 2018 /

    Weather in Bulgaria has turned and it’s been really chilly for the last couple of days – we woke up to a 1°C/33°F morning in Sofia. It will be getting slightly warmer next week but, even so, autumn is upon us. I just flipped the calendar into October (although there’s a few more days) because I usually remember to do it when we’re well into the new month so I used this rare opportunity of remembering in advance. Doing this I flashbacked to when I first put the calendar up on the wall early in January. And here we are, just a few more days and we will be in…

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    Childhood emotional neglect – the hidden root of my pain

    18th July 2019
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    Crisis as a call for change and how to integrate it in your life

    21st November 2015
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    September astrology vibes and dives

    14th September 2016
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    The Empowered Women Series

    Interview with Elizabeth Johnsen: woman and mother on a path of healing and transformation

    29th January 2018 /

    In 2015 Elizabeth contacted me through my blog – she was the very first person to reach out in such a way. Quickly we felt a much deeper connection which grew into a friendship. Even though we’ve never met in person I feel we’ve known each other for lifetimes. I know Elizabeth has been through some hard times recently and it was painful to witness her journey “from afar” but nevertheless, I never stopped feeling for her. I’m happy to see and say that she has overcome the darkness. Here are Elizabeth’s own words: Tell us a little bit about your life journey. I was raised in New Zealand by…

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    Interview with Kathy Garland: blogger, writer and inspirational author at Kwoted

    27th June 2018
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    Interview with Laura Lee: Therapist and Coach at Scapegoats Anonymous

    19th April 2019
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    Interview with Tanya Amidei: Sexual abuse survivor, life coach and a spiritual writer

    28th June 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    The four steps of personal transformation

    30th January 2017 /

    “Personal transformation is the Dark Night of The Soul – you enter the unknown darkness, you face your frightful demons, but you always, always come out of it more powerful, more resilient and more resourceful. You are a Warrior of The Light.” Personal transformation is normally triggered by painful events in one’s life. Something happens and we reach a point when we’re either forced or we willingly choose the brambly path of evolution. We recognize some things in our lives don’t work anymore and need to change, we start actively questioning our beliefs and thought processes, and we’re open to learning new concepts and incorporating new philosophies. We embark on a whole new…

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    Birthday wishes and full moon magic

    22nd September 2016
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    Saying Thanks

    31st December 2015
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    Learning to trust: connecting to our inner wisdom

    5th May 2016
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    Trauma Healing

    “Look how far you’ve come!”

    21st October 2016 /

    I recently went for an amatsu massage therapy as a birthday gift. The therapist is a friend of our family and she knows the details of my personal story. I first met her when I moved into the town where we live now, and she’s been following our four-year time period here since the birth of our son. So when I met her after some six months since our previous meet-up, she exclaimed: “You look gorgeous!” I shied away and said that I’m only dressed casual. When she asked what birthday that was and I answered that it was my 32nd, she explained again: “Look how far you’ve come!” I shied away again,…

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    Acceptance: the path to change

    5th February 2018
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    Forgiveness letter to myself

    11th April 2017

    The importance of keeping the connection with yourself

    25th July 2021
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    Spirituality

    Taking the first steps

    6th February 2016 /

    The first steps have been taken. In fact, we’ve been making them for the last few weeks. We’ve been decluttering our house constantly and continually – we’ve brought tens of bags to the charity shops (plus small furniture items), we’ve recycled a couple of bags with old and unused electronics, and we’ve managed to put aside a couple of hundred euros from selling stuff. The house feels lighter and calmer. So do we – our small family of three. I mentioned last time that we’re taking care of the house (about 3 1/2 years now) while the owner, my partner’s grant aunt, is slowly winding down in a nursing home. Well,…

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    September astrology vibes and dives

    14th September 2016
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    Reclaiming a lost self: an experience in my home country

    13th September 2016
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    Pain is the means, love is the end

    31st July 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    A new breath of life

    21st January 2016 /

    Well, it’s been a while… Too many things are happening and too little, I’ve got loads of things I want to write about and share. Funny enough, I’m not getting frustrated at all, as what I would normally do. I do in fact enjoy savouring and simmering (2 of my new favourite words) all the thoughts, ideas, information bits and bytes I’ve gathered along the last few weeks. This is a slow down time for my zodiac sign Virgo and all Virgonians, as we’re hosting two planets in a retrograde mode. Mercury and Jupiter are both slowing us down and giving us the chance to re-think, re-consider, re-organise – you get…

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    How to work with difficult feelings

    20th March 2017

    Start of the school year and the nervous system

    8th September 2022
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    Moving towards joy

    7th September 2017
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    Trauma Healing

    Learning to love ourselves

    30th December 2015 /

    Learning to love yourself is probably one of the hardest things we will have to do in life. Some never get to enjoy the feeling of self-love. Others are lucky to have built it slowly for themselves. And third have experienced the bliss of growing up in a loving environment and cultivating self-love along the way.In any case, living your life without loving yourself could hardly be called living. And, more or less, we’re all here to learn to love in one way or another. I’ve always struggled with self-esteem, self-worth and self-love. I didn’t realise how crucial these qualities are until recently, and how they affect all spheres of…

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    Embracing our (complex) human nature

    13th June 2017
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    Quiet confidence: living in alignment with what our souls desire

    2nd March 2017
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    A turning point on my healing journey – experiencing an emotional flashback and remembering my past

    1st March 2020
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    Trauma Healing

    Crisis as a call for change and how to integrate it in your life

    21st November 2015 /

    “Crisis is a call for change and when it comes in your life, make sure you give yourself the necessary time to understand its full meaning. Crisis gives you the opportunity to find the hidden gold in your shadow.” I am just coming out of a personal crisis which started a few months ago and was triggered by the death of my sister. This loss followed the death of our mother 5 years earlier. Two people of my 4-member family are now forever gone from my present life. They live in my past and, perhaps, our souls will meet again in the future beyond. I dedicate my writing work to…

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    A powerful start to a new year

    15th January 2018

    Eclipse season, covid and hitting rock bottom

    17th November 2022
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    How my recent job rejection helped me heal and love myself

    4th February 2019
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    Trauma Healing

    Four things I’ve learned from going through a crisis

    29th October 2015 /

    “A crisis gives you the opportunity to face your deepest flaws and fears, take responsibility for your life, and turn the pain something beautiful.” For the last 5 years I have been going through some tough times. Living away from my family and friends in a foreign country, losing two of my closest people to cancer and trying to cope with motherhood and unemployment is roughly describing the picture. Yet, these hardships prompted me to explore my life situation and find the lessons in it. Here’s what I’ve learned. 1. Take the Time to Process First of all that means to acknowledge that something is happening to you. Try not…

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    Autumn and the renewal of the soul: on priorities, anxiety and social media

    11th November 2015
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    Quiet confidence: living in alignment with what our souls desire

    2nd March 2017
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    Coming out from the mud and continuing onward

    16th October 2017
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I am Vilina Christoph and I write about my journey of healing from childhood trauma and emotional neglect. I use words to transmute the pain from the adverse experiences into fuel for growth and empowerment. I believe we have the power to heal ourselves and transform our lives from within. I am passionate about helping women heal and grow to become their authentic selves and build an abundant life.

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